I have just come back from a trip away with my DD to find that my friend who was feeding the cat appears to have been doing more than popping in to top up the Felix!
There was wine spilt on the floor, crisps down the gaps in the sofa, muck from washing up in the sink (like half a lasagna and salad!), a tap running, stuff obviously used in the kitchen and not put back etc etc oh yes and a recipe in her writing she had ripped up and dropped on the floor.
I was livid!!! We have been estranged lately as she has decided to leave her H and kids and they are family friends so I have kept out of it which she didn't like and badmouthed me to others. However, last week I sent her a note to see if we could patch things up and she was really pleased so that was when I asked her to feed the cat.
Then I come back to this!!!! I went straight round nad asked her to explain.She said she had wanted some time on her own so went round to watch a DVD. I don't believe her-the DVD doesn't work and why would she take a recipe and use so much stuff in the kitchen? And why wouldn't she ask-that would be normal? Anyway I asked for my key back and said I didn't want to be in touch with her anymore as she had abused my trust.
Trust is really important to me as I was married to a serial adulterer and compulsive liar who made me think I was mad by spinning so many lies and this friend knows all that so her abuse of my trust/lying (if she is-I have no proof but very much doubt she was there on her own..)seems all the worse.
She has since texted me non stop saying I have over-reacted-she wouldn't have minded me doing the same to her (irrelevant as I wouldn't have done it) and that she was going to tell me but didn't get the chance. I have not replied. She then said she is seeing a bloke (has always maintained separation is not about anyone else) but that she didn't bring him round to shag him if that was what I was thinking (i never said a word!)Then she said if I wanted to tell her H about the bloke I could! Then said I was being un fair to say she had abused my trust when she hadn't "done anything wrong". I have said nothing more to her and won't but I am so mad.
What's going on ? Why do you think she said all that about her bloke and telling her H? It feels like she wants me to do her dirty work for her. What should I do? Am inclined to keep ignoring her as at the moment I want nothing more to do with her, and after the previous stuff I need to call ita day now. Our DDs are best friends though! What do I say when other friends ask? I feel so much like telling everyone what she has done but need to try to ccontain myself-thanks God for Mumsnet!!
What would you do?