Single, early menopause - should I use a sperm donor?

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Hi all,

I am 26 years old and was recently diagnosed with premature ovarian failure. I’m still getting infrequent periods and am considering using a sperm donor.

I have long suspected something is wrong as I’ve never had normal periods but was fobbed off by multiple doctors. Only after going privately with my works health insurance was I finally diagnosed.

I am single and any chance of having a child is quickly disappearing. Would I be crazy to do this alone with a donor? I currently live in London and don’t earn a huge amount. My current working hours would absolutely not suit having a baby - I work 10am to 8pm shifts.

No family in London either but I know my parents would be supportive if I did go ahead. I can’t help but feel selfish for even considering it. Would it be fair on any future child? Maybe even if I did go ahead it won’t work out, so am I just setting myself up for heartbreak?

On the other hand, will I be kicking myself a few years down the line when I am childless thinking I could have at least tried but didn’t take the opportunity?

Sorry, just needed to vent and hopefully get some outside perspective.

My friend was single, got to 30 and got a sperm donor. Little boy is now 5 and she is obsessed. I think if you know you want kids, and in your case you've had health issues which are pushing the time frame, then go for it. Speak to specialists once the initial shock has worn off, look into all options like egg freezing as others have mentioned. You won't regret looking at all options and being informed before you make your decision. Speak to some women who did it on their own and see what their experience has been. Good luck!