AIBU- to be ignored at the school reception.

[Bambooparty]

Nothing major but it rubbed me up the wrong way. Would love to know if I am AIBU.

I had to pick my son up early yesterday. I informed reception I would pick him up at the time I discussed. I arrived bang on time and walked into reception, it’s a small area so they saw me when I walked in.

My child’s teacher was actually in the reception at the times, she would have been informed I was coming to collect early, she would have known why I was there.

She was having a conversation with the receptionist about some work she was having done on the house. Neither of them acknowledged me.

I stood there, right in front of them, for around 4 mins whilst they carried on their conversation. I felt so awkward! They finally finished and collected my son for me.

I just thought it was rude.

AIBU?

It was rude, but no way would I have stood there for 4 minutes, without interrupting them and saying I need to pick my child up.

Yanbu, very very rude. In fact more so from your dd's own teacher.

I’d have knocked on the window/desk/counter and shouted excuse me I’m short on time - ignorant pair

I have put YANBU as it would annoy me too. However, in schools (for security reasons) it's usually only office staff who are allowed to answer the door and not teachers.

She wasn't. I'm not massively bothered if someone takes a little break, it was just odd that she was brazenly scrolling Facebook with the screen to the public, given that kids could have been coming in (ones that had been to appointments or similar) rather than protecting her privacy. Also I'm new to being a secondary parent and primary schools are usually strong in modelling manners!

I've noticed this level of poor behaviour by a few school receptionists over the years - and this case is not the same as having to wait your turn, as you had a prior arrangement. Some school receptionists aren't great at their jobs, I'll just say that. And some school staff do think parents are very low in the pecking order.

Agree with this. 👆

It's rude but I wouldn't get worked up about it enough to post on mumsnet

Was it really really 4 minutes OP? 'Cos that is quite a long time to just stand waiting to be acknowledged.

The role or receptionist is to receive. Ours are always really busy but even if they're on the phone when you walk in they'll catch your eye and smile or nod to show they've seen you.

It’s very rude.

So many school receptionists are grumpy bitches who love a power trip. I’ve seen incredibly nasty behaviour to pupils and parents.

Well if course there is. Doesn't mean the OP has no right to be a bit narked at this, as I would be too

I think it's rude too.

Similar happened to me. We are meant to be able to chat to teachers in the mornings at drops off. I approached the door ONE time. Only the TA was by the door and she just turned her back to me and completely ignored me. All I wanted to say is that my child has brought sweets for the whole class and to check if that's ok. Anyway, I did (and do) take it personally, because she is very friendly with some of the other mums in the mornings. They just rate people quickly in their heads in order of 'importance' (status,etc).