To keep distance from family

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I have quite a strained relationship with my immediate family.
Both my parents neglected me and my siblings and would hit and verbally abuse us.
Forced to do housework at 10/11.

My two older siblings are quite nasty and made my life hell as a teen.
Both 10 years older (they are twins).

I maintained a civil relationship with my parents and siblings but now that I have had twins myself I just want to cut them all out my life.

The whole family want to come to see my babies but my instinct tells me to keep them at bay.

It took me years to rebuild myself after all the hell they put me through.

I keep putting them off seeing them but now they are practically forcing me to allow them to visit by asking me on a daily basis "When are we meeting the twins"?,

I feel quite scared and backed into a corner, the kids of these siblings are just like their parents and under no circumstances do I want my babies around them.

I thought I was strong enough but I feel like a kid again.

I am scared they will just turn up.

Have you got a partner who can help keep them to one side if they turn up?
I am sorry you had such a hard time growing up in that family. I would consider very low contact indeed.

I think hovering in the middle is causing the issue. You just need to cut them off for it to be done with.

How far away do they live? Block them.

Yes I have a partner who can intervene if they decide to turn up.

They live about 20 minutes away.