To have a baby this way?

[Queijo]

So I’m a single mum to a 7 year old dd. I have had a coil for three years which failed.

I fell pregnant after NYE sex with a really good friend (I have a thread on here when I’d just found out)

I ended up having a really awful miscarriage, I had retained product and ended up with a severe infection, I spent nearly a week in hospital with IV antibiotics.

Now I’ve finally come through it all, I’m so desperate for a baby again. I’m so unbelievably sad that my baby died and all I can think about is being pregnant again.

I am 35, I own DD’s and I house outright, potential father has his own house etc.

Am I mad for trying again asap?

Are you in a relationship?

Is potential father onboard with this?

Trying again with who?

Id say if you want to go official sperm doner route, that’s ok. But if you are planning to knowingly bring a child into an insecure and potentially chaotic non-relationship, that’s just so wrong.

Is dad to be on board with this, are you in a relationship,

in your shoes I’d put your DD first and consider her needs above your desire for another baby.

This completely

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I think that right now you are grieving. Therefore it would be sensible to wait a couple of months to give yourself a chance to work past that before you make any big decisions. It is also probably best for your body (that has been through a lot) to let it have a chance to recover before you add further work to it.

You can always use the time to take the three months of folic acid that is advised before starting a ttc journey, get a rubella immunity test (ask your GP) and eat lots of vegetables to get yourself in the perfect place if you decide that trying for another baby is right for you and your dd.

I think it depends on a variety of things. Does the man want a child? Will he be around to support in any way or are you doing it alone?
Are you two in a relationship now?

Id focus on putting your dd first. I’m sorry for your loss and I know you want to have a baby to feel pregnant again but I wouldn’t rush into anything just yet.

I completely understand the intense desire for a baby. However, I would allow yourself time to grieve and regroup and make a decision on having another baby when you’ve come to terms with the loss.

Harsh. You don't know how she's treated her daughter throughout her life!

I don't think having another child is the right thing at the moment though. Wait until you're in a happy relationship.

Do you really need to write such a dick-ish comment to someone grieving a miscarriage?!

I think you have missed an important detail here…do you mean try again with the same good friend? If yes, what did he think about the previous pregnancy and miscarriage? (Sorry for your loss)

This poster lives for a dickish comment. Constantly see leaving shitty comments on threads.

I'm sorry for you loss and understand your longing for another child.

That said, I never think big decisions should be make at a time of grief or any other time of heightened emotion.

Give it some time and thought before making a decision.

Any potential father's input is also important.