I have been with my partner for almost four years , he moved in 18 months ago and we have blended our families.
One DSD 19 and at university, and my two DS 9 and 15 who live with us. The children get on really well and consider themselves siblings . We have family holidays, Christmas together, lots of trips out and his DS has become quite close to my sisters and family and I really love her
Two years ago my partners mum died and he took over her house, which is a mess and a lot to deal with . We both have quite stressful jobs -his in particular, and there’s a lot to juggle at home , my mum has dementia , 15yo is quite hard work etc etc
Every time we have a stressful time, or lately even a slight row he leaves, goes back to his mums house - not too far away - then comes back and says sorry , he doesn’t mean it is going to change etc.
He's done it this past week and I am so angry and sick of it . I had a miscarriage in December, I have been really unwell and work is tough at the moment . My eldest is about to do his GCSE’s and the 9yo is so close to my partner. I can’t continue to put up with this , it feels so controlling and abusive even though he is wonderful at all other times .
He is now saying we should go to counselling but he will stay at his mum’s and I’m so hurt and frustrated that he just leaves- with no consideration for how we all are . He took the car and I’ve been stuck over half term without it for instance .
What do I do?