Bedtime!?

[Teasie123]

My hubby gets so upset when I don't go to bed the same time as him! He constantly comes down saying, when are you coming up?, I can't sleep till Ur in bed? And then throws a proper tantrum! I have to negotiate what time I ll be up at!!😤😤😤

I can imagine that's really annoying. Id prob compromise by going up early a few nights a week if he's looking some time to have a cuddle and chat to connect with you. If I wasn't feeling generous I might go up early and read with lamp on. He might prefer I didn't come up at all. 😁

Yep, very glad I’m single

@stargazer02 yeah, that's a good idea. I don't want him to feel lost. But I'm going through the menopause and am finding it hard to sleep.😤😤😤

Might be time for a bit of sleep training. Leave him to cry it out but come up in 10 minute intervals to assure him that you love him and proud of him and he can go to sleep all by his big boy self 💞

Lmao!!! 🤣🤣🤣

He's been down twice already. Told me, this isn't on
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What the hell? You need to remind him that you’re an adult and he’s not your parent. Neither DH nor I have ever policed each others’ bedtimes.

@Maray1967 that's exactly what I think!!!

Completely missing the point of the thread I know- but how many people expect their children to sleep alone when they don’t want to themselves!!

@TheBeesKnee I got it. I promise I did.🤗🤗🤗

God luv him. Think I'm gonna have to go to bed, even if it's just til he goes over...🤭🤭🤭🤣🤣🤣

That sounds very annoying and clingy. I know lots of couples who have similar bedtimes. Having the same bedtime isn't sustainable over a lifetime!

It can be annoying

See, now we ve had a row. Cause I don't feel he should tell me when to go to bed and he thinks I should want to go to bed!😤😤😤🙄🙄🙄🫣🫣🫣

Nope! been together over 30 yrs and I can't do it especially these days. DH goes up to bed and I follow an hour later- we have done this since we were 5 yrs in. I need my hour to unwind. He sleeps as soon as his head hits the pillow- I don't!
Happy to slide in next to him soon but I don't want spooning or anything - i go to bed when I'm ready to drop. It's taken a bit of talking for him to realise it's not personal, it's a me thing and if Brad Pitt was laid there I wouldn't snuggle up. I'm menopausal can you tell!

Just read your update - go to sleep for now and talk it over tomorrow. It's too late for arguing! You should get to choose your own bedtime though.

Is it because he's on edge waiting for you so can't drop off? Or just scared to sleep without you?
We just have separate bedrooms now