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Is he being unreasonable for saying this..

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Notthistime23 · 27/02/2024 08:56

My friends ex is a bully, they share a child together, she takes care of their child full time.. he then EOW but doesn’t contact child inbetween those times and also has no involvement with school, seeing how they’re progressing etc her ex continuously tries to bully my friend into bending their court order to suit himself.

Now my friend is seeking to make a change to the order due to a change in circumstances, naturally her ex doesn’t agree. My friend has suggested mediation, her ex has refused and said he isn’t interested in discussing it and that it isn’t her (my friends) decision to make. My friend has been amicable and said while it isn’t solely her decision it also is not solely just his and that is where a third party is needed.

anyway I think after years of making my friend feel worthless she still has his little voice in her mind telling her she is.. so I’m trying to show her that his comment about it not being her decision was unreasonable and his refusal to do mediation or even find out what the fuck is going on with their child even more unreasonable.

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SleepingStandingUp · 27/02/2024 09:00

Well he's unreasonable to not even have the discussion. Obviously it depends what the issue is and what the new proposal is as to whether he'd be unreasonable to refuse it

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 27/02/2024 09:06

what’s the issue?

Notthistime23 · 27/02/2024 09:08

@SleepingStandingUp the proposal wouldn’t change how much time her ex would spend with their child it’s a change in the pattern of contact. This is due to a change in circumstances for their DC. But my friend is clear he can disagree with the proposal as much as she could disagree with anything he says or suggest. It’s more his unwillingness to even enter into the discussion and disregarding the fact that she take on the full load of parenting.

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