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To sack him off?

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5599katherine · 27/02/2024 06:13

I have been seeing a guy for around two months now. We have been on dates every week, like going for dinner and staying at each others home. We both have similar jobs, interests and from what I could tell a mutual feeling of attraction on both sides. He has spoken about being exclusive, bought me flowers, took me out on valentines day, is a gentlemen etc.
Recently, I have found that he has been very cold with me. He still meets up with me and talks, but often takes hours, if not days to reply back to my messages. Nothing serious, just general chit-chat but the feeling of hot and cold is making me feel really anxious and quite frankly, upset.
I have mentioned a couple of times, in jest, about his lack of communication, where I got an apology but not a change of behavior. He would laugh it off in person.
Last week, I went away with friends, he didn't respond back for three days, which I thought was odd and quite rude. I had sent him a message about being unwell on my travels.
Do you think I am thinking too much into it?
My friends say I should ignore him back - which I did once, and he got very upset about it!
I'm tired of playing games, I just want someone whos authentic and if their not interested, just let me know!
Should I bring this up in person or just sack him off?

OP posts:
Nicebloomers · 27/02/2024 06:17

Life is too short. Throw him back in the sea.

jeaux90 · 27/02/2024 06:27

Red flags, chuck him back. You deserve better.

Globules · 27/02/2024 06:27

If he's making you upset this early on and you've tried to address it without any change in behaviour then yes, end things.

Superawkward · 27/02/2024 06:29

Sack him off.

LightSwerve · 27/02/2024 06:31

Huge red flag.

Don't waste time. Respect yourself.

Picklestop · 27/02/2024 06:32

Taking hours to respond wouldn’t bother me at all, but days would. He is wasting your time.

Fallenangelofthenorth · 27/02/2024 06:34

Just sack him off. I wouldn't waste your time discussing it as you've already mentioned it before anyway.

fusspot25 · 27/02/2024 06:36

He's either game playing or he's just not that into you. Either way it's not good. I would let it fizzle out.

cuckyplunt · 27/02/2024 06:40

Gawd girl, who could be bothered?
Plenty more fish in the sea!

LauritaEvita · 27/02/2024 06:53

Definitely. You’re only 3 months in so move on now, before you have any regrets about how much time you’ve wasted later on. He’s not considering your feelings and that’s not going to change. Byeeeeee.

Cherrysoup · 27/02/2024 07:03

Kick him to the curb. Why get all annoyed? I don’t see the point.

SD1978 · 27/02/2024 07:38

When you're wondering if you should start playing his games, and not act in a way you want to in a relationship- it's time to end it.

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