Should my friend have told me her partner is unsympathetic towards ill grandparents?

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My Grandparents are both sick in hospital at the moment. In two different hospitals (a county apart) so we are stretched quite thin as a small family and stress levels are high. One is in ICU and one has pneumonia. Both late 80s. My Mum was a single Mum so I was partially raised by them.

My best friend has a partner who she has a complicated relationship with. They live together but she often complains about him. She told me tonight that he's being unsympathetic towards the situation because they are elderly and that she is finding it hard. She is rearranging their plans for this week to help me and he doesn't understand why. In a sensitive moment, I snapped at her and explained that wasn't the right time to tell me that. The thought of someone in my life being unsympathetic stung.

Yes, I know they are in their late 80s but I'm incredibly close to them. AIBU that i'm being so sensitive?

What does this mean? Is she risking her job to help you? Or massively inconveniencing her coworkers / boss by the weekend rearrangements?

If yes: doesn’t necessarily sound like an unsupportive boyfriend! My SO sometimes tells me to put myself first. It isn’t always nice (to hear) but I really appreciate it!

And I honestly think you owe her an apology.

I think it’s her way of letting you know that there’s a cost to her attempts to support you.

Hopefully this was out of character for you and not your default when feeling stressed/sensitive. Glad you’ve seen you’re very much at fault and are going to apologise.

Hope they getter better soon 🤞

Oh and that’s an amazing friend you have, treasure her.