I co parent a 7 year old ASD son with my ex husband.
DS has had a tough year with few sicknesses and ASD diagnosis, so I wanted to make an effort this year to do something he really would love.
I told ex-H months ago that I had booked to take DS away for the night as DS really loves going away to a hotel with a pool etc. Nothing fancy, just a standard hotel chain type.
DS isnt into toys etc and prefers reading, music and sciency things so I got him a few presents to open (nothing too much, just a telescope, a couple books and some sensory toys).
He was spending the night before his birthday with his dad (and this would be the only time his dad would see him for 10 days due to his work shifts.
I collect DS on the morning of his birthday, all excited to hear about the fun he had, and the presents he had got (even if it was only clothes etc)
The child didnt get a single present! He only got cards! I asked ex about this (away from DS earshot) and he said he paid for his breakfast that morning for his birthday?! And that he was taken out for dinner the previous night with his grandmother?!
I asked him why he was only at dinner also with his granny and not him as expected. He said he had to go and sit ALL NIGHT with his girlfriend in the A&E (for how long you're waiting, I hardly think taking 1.5 hours out for your childs birthday meal is unreasonable). DS rang his dad later that day from our hotel and the girlfriend sounded very chipper and said she felt loads better to my DS so she was hardly on deaths door or extremely unwell!
DS had a wonderful time with me in the hotel and loved all his presents.
Its not a money issue regarding the presents as ex recently got a huge leg tattoo and booked a weekend away. I dont expect much, but bloody B&M do the sensory toys he likes where he could have spent less than £10!
AIBU to be furious with him?
My DS hasnt been bothered with him since and refused to speak with him today on the phone as well.