Obsessing over 4th pregnancy. Help me stop.

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I've 3 beautiful, healthy children, aged 9, 7 and 3. Happy marriage. 3 is our limit for all sorts of practical reasons.

I'm not broody. I don't want another baby, as such.

I feel desperate to be pregnant again. I've started tracking my ovulation and praying for an accident to happen. My husband is militant about using protection and I so want to be pregnant!

I'm 41 and assume my body is just crying out for one last chance. This isn't a gratitude thing, by the way. I can't tell you how grateful I am for my 3. It feels totally senseless, illogical, hormonal and biological. I can't help it, and it's driving me mad.

Please talk me out of this and tell me how U I'm being!

I had to be talked into having DC2, I was pretty happy with one child. I’ve also had an endometrial ablation so can’t even get pregnant. I do not want another child.

But fuck me, the pre menopause hormones sometimes! It’s insane, it’s like my body is just nudge nudge nudge reminding me I’m looking at my last chance. Bloody hormones.

I see that 22% have said I'm not being unreasonable haha. Gosh the hormon3s are powerful. When I started ttc my eldest, I wanted a child. Same for the other two. I wanted another human in our family. This time around I don't know what it is I want but it's like an obsessive urge that my egg needs to be fertilised! It makes no sense. Thank goodness my husband thinks with his head!

@HappierTimesAhead to be fair, she's a brilliant mum and she has done a fantastic job, despite a fairly useless DH. I'd have been dreadful, which is why I very happily stuck to two!

I found three an odd number so had four DC 🤣 sorry <runs>

Nothing in this world would make me want another.
I see babies im not all ooohh so sweet im more thank god its not mine.
You would be parenting all through your 50s think about it.
You want your freedom back at some point.
To go all back to baby days no sleep schools teen years oh god no.
Im 37 my baby is 19 & moved out and i have all my freedom back to do what i want.

It's our age OP, I'm the same (age 40). Sometimes I put my hand on my belly and pretend I am! But in no way do I actually want another child. It's just hormones.

I have four ( all grown up now ) and would not recommend. Hard work and hugely expensive and much more expensive as they get older !

@lambhotpot the thing is that I'm already in the thick of it! I just stopped breastfeeding the youngest last year and she is still in nappies so I my mind it's not such a drastic case of going backwards. My eldest isn't even 10 yet, and I just love babies and toddlers. The thought of not having small kids anymore is bothering me a bit 🙃

I've just been thinking back to when I was a teenager and the very thought of being pregnant would bring me out in a cold sweat, because I knew my parents would kill me! Once I was old enough for my parents not to kill me should I have become pregnant, I've always been open to the idea! When I was on the pill in my twenties I would hopefully google 'chances of getting pregnant on the pill' 20 years later and I'm still googling 'chances of getting pregnant when using condoms' with a wistful little glimmer of hope! I would just keep getting pregnant until the menopause made the decision for me, if I could!

Update. Since ive ovulated (think I have anyway), I've not been thinking about babies or pregnancy etc.

Biology! See you in a month!