Today marks the first anniversary of the biggest loss of my life. One I've not recovered from, just tried really hard to accept and adjust to for my children.
We have been no contact with my in laws since last November. This came from many years of hurt and toxic behaviour accumulating to the point where my husband set out what had upset us, to which we never received a reply. Months have passed and I hear from other family members MIL/FIL are victim playing and slagging us off left, right and centre.
My MIL has not once made any contact with us (we have very very young children). I recently saw her and she stared me out quite aggressively.
Today, of all days, on a very sad anniversary for me, she has text me to say she is thinking of me today but thinks of us every day. I am enraged. I feel like she's sat on this opportunity for these months, to use my grief and vulnerability as a way in. On the face of it it seems a kind thing to do but she has done this for PR purposes, cleverly adding my husband into the message too. However, she is extremely manipulative and toxic and I see this as her trying her luck as a way in without doing any work to apologise and make proper amends. We've no intention of rekindling a relationship with the in laws, after all the hurt and complete lack of apology or acknowledgement.
I was hoping for some advice on responding to this type of thing? I want to make it clear that she has exploited my grief and that she shouldn't contact me again? Help much appreciated. Thank you