Housework

[Thomasina79]

Was cleaning out the fridge, not a job I do for fun, but it doesn’t do itself! Himself comes in after a walk and says he will ‘help’ which annoyed me. I said it implies that such cleaning is my responsibility. Am I being silly? We are both retired.

I would take in this context that you are in the middle of a chore so he was in fact, helping you complete the job.

If he had got up this morning and said he’d help you out by cleaning the fridge, that would be different!

I agree with this.

If DH implied he'd helped me by putting a load of laundry on, I'd rage.

If I was in the middle of folding laundry and he offered to help, I'd appreciate it, as I was already doing the job myself.

unless he has form I’d take this as a turn of phrase.

It's a figure of speech.
He is actually helping you as you are in the middle of doing something.
Chill!

Yes, the context matters. In this instance offering to 'help' sounds fine.

YABU for sure. You were busy, he offered to help.

Yabu in this context but I suspect this is the tip of the iceberg and you resent him for not being proactive in household duties. Ie doing things without being asked.