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To ask you to please help me stop worrying!!!

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Brudolf · 25/02/2024 19:37

Next week i have an appointment to have my smear test. It was due in September so I am months late having it done which is adding to my anxiety. Also, I have had awful experiences having smears done (hence the delay booking). I know for most women it’s a quick and painless procedure. Well not for me unfortunately!

On top of that, I have a lumpy area in my boob and have been having some pain in that area. I checked and there is a new lump that has formed there. I’ll be honest, I don’t check my breasts as much as I should because it causes me so much anxiety due to the lumpy area so I don’t know how new or old this lump is.

Im so worried, but on top of that, I’m having some sort of existential crisis and feeling this wave of panic coming over me every time I let my mind drift onto the subject. Worrying about how finite our time is here. Worrying about leaving my children motherless. I’m spiralling.

I already take sertraline for anxiety, which is usually very effective. The worst thing is though, these worries are a reality. One day I will not be here and that absolutely terrifies me!

I know this is a bit deep, but I’m hoping someone can offer me some advice on how to overcome all of this as I’m struggling.

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CarrotOfPeace · 25/02/2024 19:42

Sending you a calming thought.

You will worry about the lump. That is normal. Make an appointment tomorrow about the lump.

I like to allow myself to worry about something for say 5 minutes, I can write it down or just allow myself to spiral a bit. Then after 5 minutes I go right then Carrot, worry in the box and you can get it out again in 2-3 hours.

HelloDaisy · 25/02/2024 19:50

Sending calmness your way from me too.

I would do exactly what CarrotOfPeace says and hopefully that will give you some control over your thoughts.

Ring your gp tomorrow to book and appt to get the lump looked at. I often get lumps appear and so far they have always been cysts. Nurse at the clinic told me I have very cysty boobs!

Can I ask how old you are? Only because I had horrendous health anxiety a few years ago and that was the start of perimenopause for me..

Brudolf · 25/02/2024 19:53

Thanks @CarrotOfPeace and @HelloDaisy. I appreciate your replies. I should have mentioned, I have got an appointment next week too for the lump.

Im 35.

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Brudolf · 25/02/2024 21:03

I’m feeling really alone and would appreciate any other words of wisdom, or even some company.

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heyheymamaway · 25/02/2024 21:59

I understand your anxiety. I was terrified of smears until I explained my worries to a nurse, who listened carefully, adjusted the way she approached the smear, went slowly and said that at any point I could stop the procedure. She was so careful and gentle I didn't realise it was finished! It'd be worth saying something.

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