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Quarterofanonion1 · 25/02/2024 15:05

Just feeling annoyed and wondering if I'm reasonable or not. Sitting on the sofa having a cup of tea after a morning of tidying and cleaning. Said to my husband that I'll have a 10 min break and then go up to tidy our son's playroom. Our son is 10, he will need to help me tidy it (unwillingly!) The playroom is very messy. I said to my son that he really needs to start looking at the toys in there and think if there are things we could sell that aren't played with anymore. Son gets a bit defensive but perks up when I said the money made will be his. I gave some examples of the kind of things he might want to sell. My husband then interjects with 'alright, I think he's got the message now' insinuating that I was going on when I was just explaining to my son that he can't keep getting more and more things and never have a clear out. It annoyed me as I'm the only one who ever does anything in this house to keep it neat and tidy. My husband has clothes etc. that are years old and he never wears but he can't be arsed to ever throw anything away and Im not doing it for him.There are 3 of us living in a 4 bed house and it is now bursting at the seams and I'm made to feel like a nag if I mention having a clear out! I'm now siting quietly quickly finishing my cuppa and husband says I seem 'antsy' and I explained its because I haven't got time to sit on my arse relaxing for hours as I need to tidy up upstairs etc. Just annoys me how I'm made out to be the baddie in my son's eyes when I'm the one spending my life tidying up everyone's crap and trying to make a nice home to live in. I think it boils down to me working part time (out of home) and him full time (from home may I add) so I'm expected to take on more of the home load.

OP posts:
eatreadsleeprepeat · 25/02/2024 15:17

Deal with it now or in thirty years time you will be in the same situation but with thirty years worth more stuff!

LovelyTheresa · 25/02/2024 15:19

Quarterofanonion1 · 25/02/2024 15:05

Just feeling annoyed and wondering if I'm reasonable or not. Sitting on the sofa having a cup of tea after a morning of tidying and cleaning. Said to my husband that I'll have a 10 min break and then go up to tidy our son's playroom. Our son is 10, he will need to help me tidy it (unwillingly!) The playroom is very messy. I said to my son that he really needs to start looking at the toys in there and think if there are things we could sell that aren't played with anymore. Son gets a bit defensive but perks up when I said the money made will be his. I gave some examples of the kind of things he might want to sell. My husband then interjects with 'alright, I think he's got the message now' insinuating that I was going on when I was just explaining to my son that he can't keep getting more and more things and never have a clear out. It annoyed me as I'm the only one who ever does anything in this house to keep it neat and tidy. My husband has clothes etc. that are years old and he never wears but he can't be arsed to ever throw anything away and Im not doing it for him.There are 3 of us living in a 4 bed house and it is now bursting at the seams and I'm made to feel like a nag if I mention having a clear out! I'm now siting quietly quickly finishing my cuppa and husband says I seem 'antsy' and I explained its because I haven't got time to sit on my arse relaxing for hours as I need to tidy up upstairs etc. Just annoys me how I'm made out to be the baddie in my son's eyes when I'm the one spending my life tidying up everyone's crap and trying to make a nice home to live in. I think it boils down to me working part time (out of home) and him full time (from home may I add) so I'm expected to take on more of the home load.

Your husband is a CFer. You need to tell him to shape up.

hellsBells246 · 25/02/2024 17:09

@LovelyTheresa, there is no need to quote all of OP's post!! Please don't.

Op, you're a little passive aggressive here, saying that you don't have time to sit down as you have tidying to do. I'd say to h that there are x jobs to do so why don't you split them? Then say which ones you'd like him to do.

Quarterofanonion1 · 25/02/2024 17:55

hellsBells246 · 25/02/2024 17:09

@LovelyTheresa, there is no need to quote all of OP's post!! Please don't.

Op, you're a little passive aggressive here, saying that you don't have time to sit down as you have tidying to do. I'd say to h that there are x jobs to do so why don't you split them? Then say which ones you'd like him to do.

Being passive aggressive when telling me I'm passive aggressive 🤔 I got shirty with him because he was rude to me, insinuating I'm a nag in front of our child.

OP posts:
LovelyTheresa · 25/02/2024 17:57

hellsBells246 · 25/02/2024 17:09

@LovelyTheresa, there is no need to quote all of OP's post!! Please don't.

Op, you're a little passive aggressive here, saying that you don't have time to sit down as you have tidying to do. I'd say to h that there are x jobs to do so why don't you split them? Then say which ones you'd like him to do.

Ok? At least my post was helpful to the OP.

hellsBells246 · 25/02/2024 18:25

I wasn't passive aggressive, OP...

Have you tried asking your h to share the load of tidying with you?

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