How to handle this housemate

[LindaHamilton]

Been living in house share the last year. Anyway there is a couple I been friendly with in it who drink too much, have dm issues and plenty of drama.

He is gone now after attacking her and thrashing their room under police orders, although she has attacked him many times too and I have seen it. So she's no angel.

Anyway since he has gone she is still drinking she has turned on me. She has fallen out with several of the other current housemates. But when I get home after 15 hour shifts she'll start texting me saying the other housemates all hate me because I did x,y or z.

I be like ok but then it turns out she is thinking it herself like for example ''you left crumbs in kitchen, you wear your shoes in house, you spend too long in communal areas....'' So I don't think they are saying it, I think she thinks it but is trying to put it on them.

I hardly be in the house so this is coming out of nowhere as when her bf was there she never paid attention to a thing I did but now it's everything I do she bes writing dramatic messages saying 'everyone in house is complaining you did x,y and z' and when I challenge her it emerges she is thinking it herself.

I somewhat think she is bored and needs drama in her life as she had lots of it when bf was here but how do I react to this?

Ignore

There is no dealing with such a person. You either completely ignore and disengage or look for somewhere else to live.

What annoys me too is I never once moaned to her about her drinking or fights with her bf. Even when it was waking me at 2am... I even borrowed her money many times and so this has come out of nowhere.

Block her messages and tell her why when she's sober. You owe her nothing.

Alternatively move out.

And don't lend her any more money.

Ignore her.

she owes me like 800, in fairness she pays it back but i'm afraid to fall pout with her incase she keeps it

Can you block her messages?

i don't want to fall out with her because of the money

Grey rock and move out

Height of stupidity to lend so much money to someone who is essentially a stranger to you.

Just ignore her and don't lend her anymore money obviously

The money is gone. That was your error.

Ignore, grey rock, and/or move out.

You are never getting that money back.

we became good mates, not a stranger

A good mate doesn't bitch about you, bring drama to your door and borrow large amounts of money off you

Have you sat down with her and asked her what on earth is the matter? Say to her you thought you were friends, so why is she attacking you?

Block her. Write the money off, she's not going to repay it anyway. And don't allow idiots you barely know to involve you in their scummy dramas.

You work 15 hr shifts, shut yourself in your own room after that and don't acknowledge her. If it continues speak to the landlord about getting her out - or give notice and find somewhere else to live. It all sounds far too stressful to have to deal with.

You were a mug to lend you that money. It’s gone. I’d reply once. You need to speak to the others to do a sense check. If she is being bonkers and the others agree could you ask her to leave or think about leaving yourself?

I’d reply to every message . I do my best to be a decent housemate. Please update me on your plans to repay the £800. And then don’t engage in any further discussion .