Neighbours from hell

[Saskia22]

Hi, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Bit of back story. I'm disabled and live in rented terrace. My neighbours are all youngish family's and people are lovely salt of the earth types. My mental health had made an improvement being around good folk.Right up until last August when next door neighbours moved in. They bought the house next door.
The day they moved in they parked in my parking space and trampled across my garden. Not a problem really but they didn't have the courtesy to ask.
They made it very clear within a week of moving that they will not tolerate any agg and he used to be a boxer in London and knows 150 people with knives. They are a couple age 60+.
A week ago they reversed their car smashing the wing mirror off my mobility car.
They didn't want me going through the insurance as he said its only a mirror .,
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I explained it was mobility car and I have no choice.
Yesterday my other neighbour who was a friend of mine died suddenly, it was pretty traumatic. What did these two do? Whacked up the radio and cracked on even though the whole streets in mourning.
They got back at gone midnight last night and had obviously been drinking as he's scared his car on the wall. They then start having a domestic.
It's making me very ill both mentally and physically.

The car thing yes that's not on. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend but if they weren't close to her I can't see why they would feel obliged to join in the period of mourning.

I am sorry you live next to awful neighbours though

The car situation is obviously not acceptable, when you say they parked on your car space? do you own that space?

They weren’t close to the neighbour, life goes on after death fortunately, they weren’t going to mourn a man they don’t know and I doubt the whole street did also.

Try talking to them and explain your situation maybe?

I've never known a whole street to be in mourning and if they weren't that close to the neighbour who died I guess they wouldn't have taken part in that (whatever that looked like?) and just gone about their normal business. I'd like to think they just didn't think it through rather than did it to annoy you.

Yes the space is legally owned by my house. I'm not expecting them to join in at all, that would be weird, Just a bit of sensitivity to not blast out music with no thought for anybody else

OP
Do you live o an estate where bays are numbered?

Who owns your and their place?

Sadly you cannot expect that anymore.

If they have bought and you rent the only option is to move as from now on they will either actually be awful or you will perceive even the slightest thing they do as upsetting you as once these kinds of people cause distress it's very hard to ignore them when you are feeling alone and vulnerable.

It's a cul de sac of about 20 houses. 12 are housing association, 9 are privately rented and one is owned. Part of my tennancy includes the use of two spaces. My landlord has given me a copy of the plans so any queries can be resolved quickly.

Keep a diary of all the noise issues and report them and do not interact with them personally as it will only make things worse. Had awful neighbours for years who partied late all the time, coming and going, fighting, it was so stressful and ended up giving me insomnia as could not relax or sleep. They drank and did drugs all the time. People like that will not be reasonable as just scum. I hope things improve and sorry about the loss of your neighbour.

What do you mean “cracked on?” If you mean just got on as normal then I don’t think you could expect anything else? They didn’t know this neighbour?

it isn’t unusual to want to sort out car damage directly- provided once you explained about the motability issue they have agreed to insurance, I can’t see the issue?

Thanks for your kind words.

Are they housing association tenants or have they bought the property? Like others have suggested, keep a list of incidents and dates for when they cause issues, including parking in your space . This can then be submitted to the housing association or landlord after a while. You should not have to deal with this nonsense , ex boxer or not (he sounds a twat) .
i have so much sympathy for you having had bad neighbours myself .

Did you point out to them that they'd parked in your bay? Have they done so since?

When they were pointing out that they knew loads of people with knives, where they being threatening or were they simply introducing themselves and making convo? If the latter, then I agree they don't sound the sort of people I'd like to be friends with, perhaps they were telling you so that you'd feel assured you live near neighbours who won't allow aggro in their neighbourhood?

The car thing - surely simply sorted after a conversation?

The mourning - others have covered.

While I'm not wanting to minimise your feelings, I wonder whether you miss your old neighbours who you thought well of and you've not considered a different perspective of the incidents you mention?