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To be annoyed they went today?

14 replies

WeatherLlama · 24/02/2024 22:07

Dh suggested a trip to Brighton this weekend. As of last night (Friday) , it was still an idea. Not sure what day, although it was mentioned that if we did it Sunday then I could go as well as I actually had a day off. (13 days straight.. not sure of they realise it's that much but they all certainly know I havent had a day off this half term!) No more was said about it. Didnt hear from the family all day, but thats not unusual as i work retail so taking calls is hard.
So, worked late tonight, didnt realise the time as firefighting issues at the store.
Got a text at 8pm.. just got home and you aren't here?
I called from the car as I was on my way home at that point, and Dh snarky comments about how its considerate to call and let people know I am going to be late so they dont worry. Fair point. I apologise and said I didnt see the time, explained what had happened at work. He asked if I had called ds2 to let him know, I said no, I assumed you were at home and as I said, I didnt realise the time. Dh then mentions they (him and dd) went to Brighton today! I was like, what, without ds2? And I thought we were going tomorrow when I could go? And what about ds21? Dh says well ds1 wanted to go but had work and anyway the weather is going to be crap tomorrow so we went today!

So he makes a snarky comment about me not communicating, when I didnt even know they were going on a day trip, let alone that neither ds went too! The weather is going to be about a degree different!

So AIBU to be annoyed that they went today, when they could have gone tomorrow with both me and ds1 who also has a day off tomorrow? Its literally my only day off during half term to do something nice with everyone but now dd just wants to "chill" before back to school.

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WeatherLlama · 24/02/2024 22:08

Ds21 should read ds1
All are teens.

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LizFromMotherland · 24/02/2024 22:10

I think better communication from all of you would've helped here.

22WR · 24/02/2024 22:10

It'd have annoyed me too. Could you and DS1 do something nice together tomorrow instead? X

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 24/02/2024 22:11

I'd be annoyed too OP. So did they only get back at 8 then get snarky because you weren't sat at home wondering where the hell they were? Nice.

tomago · 24/02/2024 22:13

Ds2 and 1 will get over it?

tomago · 24/02/2024 22:13

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 24/02/2024 22:11

I'd be annoyed too OP. So did they only get back at 8 then get snarky because you weren't sat at home wondering where the hell they were? Nice.

True. This would be very annoying

WeatherLlama · 24/02/2024 22:14

LizFromMotherland · 24/02/2024 22:10

I think better communication from all of you would've helped here.

Agree i could have text to let them know, but I was genuinely immersed in the issue at work. They know after the store closes I can take a text or call and often they do text at that point. I am usually really good at telling them if I am stuck, which I pointed out and dh acknowledged. So this was an anomaly.

That's a bit different to doing the family outing that was discussed, with half the family missing and not even knowing!

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WeatherLlama · 24/02/2024 22:15

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 24/02/2024 22:11

I'd be annoyed too OP. So did they only get back at 8 then get snarky because you weren't sat at home wondering where the hell they were? Nice.

Yep, they only got back a few minutes before me. So actually had I been home at he usual time, I would have had no idea where THEY were!

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Ariona · 24/02/2024 22:16

What's the reason for your ds's not going?

RatatouillePie · 24/02/2024 22:17

Go tomorrow with your DS1 to Brighton?

I'd be pissed off.

scorpiogirly · 24/02/2024 22:19

You're not being unreasonable. He should have checked first if you were planning on going tomorrow or not, or at least let you know what he was planning to do so you could have had a discussion about it.

WeatherLlama · 24/02/2024 22:19

Ariona · 24/02/2024 22:16

What's the reason for your ds's not going?

Ds2 said he didnt want to, but also, had ds1 been there he would have. He also would have done if i was there. Ds1 and ds2 are very close. Ds1 had to work this evening and they wouldnt have been back in time so ds2 was like "just dd? No thanks!" As they sometimes dont get along. Plus dh and dd would have been talking football the whole time if it was just them, and it bores the pants off ds!

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Ariona · 24/02/2024 22:22

Yanbu then. Very selfish of him to actually do this. Both of them really. So tomorrow would have been a lovely day, with all the family being available and they chose to go today? Very selfish really.

delphi13 · 24/02/2024 22:24

I would be disappointed but in terms of the weather would have to agree with him. There was some rain today but breaks of ok weather, tomorrow is going to be an absolute washout. Though to be fair I'd probably have held off until next weekend instead so more people could come and hopefully better weather. Brighton isn't that fun in torrential rain and wind.

He was being a bit of an arse making snarky comments about not communicating when he didn't either.

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