Entitled Bus Wankers

[Ihatebuswankers]

Today I was going home with a sleeping toddler in a buggy, an older child aged 5 and loads of shopping. Got to the bus stop, no other buggies, waited 20 mins. Bus arrives, suddenly this couple with a buggy and baby in a sling appears from a way off, and due to where the driver stopped, managed to get on before me. I had been letting some elderly people on and then all of a sudden they were there. There was one buggy already on the bus and they took the last space. Luckily I managed to get on as I don’t think the driver noticed and I had to wedge myself my the door, 5 year old getting hit every time someone got off. In 6 years of having a buggy and not driving, I have never known a bus driver allow this!

As I got on, I said ‘Excuse me but I was at the bus stop before you, did you not see me?’ - they immediately got defensive, saying they had been travelling for hours and had a young baby, etc. In my opinion, it doesn’t matter, the person waiting at the bus stop first with a buggy, should get a space on the next bus due to limited spaces. They were so smug and entitled about it, saying ‘I really don’t understand the problem, we are all on the bus, why don’t you just let it go’ etc. Really patronising.

YABU - bus stops are a free for all and it just depends who the bus driver stops closest to

YANBU - they were entitled bus wankers and should have waited their turn.

I did lessons years ago but never really needed to drive so I didn’t do my test. Well this incident has spurred me on to start again, just booked in some lessons!

IMO, the OP used this reference to point out ill-informed, careless, selfish, entitled people that feel the rules of good social behaviour do not apply to them

Yup, I was on a bus when a couple sat with their toddler at the back of the bus- leaving their empty buggy in the buggy space. Someone came along after with a buggy and couldn’t board because of the buggy already there.

Surely you can fit quite a few folded buggies
on a bus, so not sure why two would be a problem, or why you’d have to sit with a folded buggy in such a way that your child was being injured.

I had this happen pre-Covid too. There have always been wankers.

Slightly different, but I remember once the central line was down in the morning, I was heavily pregnant and went to the bus stop to get a bus to next overground station - first one in the queue, standing right beside the bus stop. Bus stop quickly becomes very busy, bus finally comes (fairly empty) and opens its back doors instead of the front ones, allowing on all the people who had only just arrived. Of course they just shoved on and I had to wait for the next one, like the arseholes they are. Public transport brings out worst in people.

I learnt from experience to go to the previous bus stop with the buggy after shopping (most people used the one at the station in the late afternoon) then would sit comfortably on the bus watching the free for all.

They were selfish, but on another note, why not get your shopping delivered, less stress

Can I use this thread to whinge about selfish bus wankers in general?

The amount of people who block seats with their bag (or just sit in the aisle seat) is honestly crazy. I know that ideally no one wants someone to sit next to them, me included, but my bus is regularly packed to the absolute brim and people STILL sit there like a twat taking up two seats and watching everyone (including kids and older people) wobble around.

i always manage to get a seat at the back because my stop is early on the route so I don’t get many opportunities to ask them to move myself, and it irrationally winds me up when other people just stand and let them get away with it. I always try to catch someone’s eye and indicate to the seat lol (obviously I give my own seat up too if necessary)

YANBU.
Its really bad now. Wheres people's manners? Its like this everytime i get the bus...i was raised first there first on and oc let disabled and elderly get in first as an exception..and tbh i always let someone with buggy or pram on first. But, where someone acts entitled or me culture, that angers me.
People waiting half hour for bus..then some selfish numpty whos just got there walks to front, and worse even, doesn't give a shit! Grrrr

They're completely in the wrong but it's Dog eat Dog in these situations 😂

Also I’m always running late so get stressed by the idea of being blocked in by people when I want to run off the bus straight to the train, but because I’m not a selfish wanker I just cope with it

I use buses alot and don't agree its dog eat dog. Thus dog let's people on before me!

Where do you live? In London, most people don’t queue. It’s bloody awful. There maybe an older person or a young parent with buggy at the stop and (probably stupid) me. Great, we’ll get on, I think. Bus appears and dozens of people appear from shop doorways, etc. and barge in front.

Where we live, NW coast, it’s not too bad and people who were queuing will say “oi, wait” to those who try to push in.

While I’m at it the Elizabeth line raises my cortisol levels. The queues by the doors where people crowd round with stony faced determination and the mad rush to get a seat, people literally pushing and running past each other.

and standing aside to let people off first - there’s always someone who stands right in front of the doors, lets all the alighting passengers struggle to get around them and once a token amount have gotten off they barge on anyway, leaving me, everyone else patiently waiting to the side and the last few stragglers in their wake!

and breathe

Don't blame COVID it's been like this for years. I remember a similar issue with DSS aged 2 and he is now 28!

I've not noticed any difference since covid

I probably wouldn't have a go at a couple when I was on my own with kids, because you're going to be outnumbered. So I don't see how it would turn out well, even if you're in the right.

The lady already on the bus had a child in the pram. Bus wankers could have definitely folded theirs. I couldn’t fold mine as my child was asleep (and I had loads of shopping in the basket so would have been a faff, though not impossible if he was awake)

Yes, London - I should be used to it by now. 😂

Next time I’m running to the back door to claim the space first 😂

Yes, London - I should be used to it by now. 😂”

Sorry mate but you probably should! My mum was experiencing exactly what you are in Streatham and then Brixton in the late 1960s.

Move up north, people are much friendlier 😁

Yes they were rude but the entitlement of people with buggies on buses in general is irritating.

It’s not a ‘buggy space’ it’s a wheelchair space and everyone with a buggy who chooses to use a bus should be prepared to fold it up to be able to board.

@PixieLaLar Apologies, I used the term ‘buggy space’ thoughtlessly. You’re quite right, it is a wheelchair space.

I was in London yesterday and travelling by tube. It was bloody hideous. Nobody has any manners. They just shove in front of you, not caring if they push you over. They smack you with their backpacks with no word of an apology. There were young people sitting in every accessible seat and yes, I know all about hidden disabilities but most of them were pretty agile when it came to their stop. I spent the entire journey feeling very glad that I no longer live there and was going home to my lovely civilised town.

They were unreasonable

But
Luckily I managed to get on as I don’t think the driver noticed and I had to wedge myself my the door, 5 year old getting hit every time someone got off. In 6 years of having a buggy and not driving, I have never known a bus driver allow this!

Well that's on you not them. You know the buggy isn't secured somewhere safe, you can see your DD being hit by the doors, you should have squeezed down the bus together or got off without needing the driver to do it (although he should if you were that close to the front your daughter was in the way of the doors)