To think the following advice doesn't always work

[Pizzzzza]

When dating, we're often told to be 'dating several men at once' to not get too attached. Chance would be a fine thing! Where would these several men be, dating one is enough, and who's really got the time to date a few men at once?
If you're OLD (not old) I guess you could talk to other people on there and see what happens, but IRL it's really not that easy.
My problem is that even though I have my hobbies, a busy life and so on, when I like a guy, I like him.
I'd like to think I have a secure attachment style, but I'm definitely keen on someone. However I always seem to go for the wrong men because when it doesn't work out for whatever reason, a couple of months later I tend to look back and think 🤢 what was I thinking? Which suggests they weren't the right guy for me.
I don't have any of these ones that got away, the majority of them were immature avoidant men who were a mistake.
Anyway, I don't know what the solution is 😂

I did OLD a few years back and dated like crazy. Sometimes more than one at a time. I even had a spreadsheet at one point to keep tabs of them. This is by no means a boast, I just wasn't being picky. Trouble is, I'm not a good liar and found myself in a few tricky situations, hilarious now but incredibly awkward at the time.
Try not to overly think everything, don't build your hopes up. Don't start making space in your lives for them. Don't compromise too much.
It's hard not to get over invested in a new interest but tbh, if you're doing that, then there's not enough in your life for yourself. Don't expect a partner to fill that void. The right man will complement your life, he doesn't have to lift it or overly change it.