We have two long standing friends. One is gluten and dairy free and registered disabled, but can do a limited amount of walking, work full-time moving around.
If either couple suggests getting together, seems coffee out is only thing they want to do - nothing wrong with that, but every time my friend who is diary free has to check with cafe first to ensure right milk (for context I have another friend who is gluten/dairy it's not a problem for her going out). Occasionally we'll meet up at eachother's houses if it's a birthday, again for coffee. It'd just be nice to do something else with them.
Last year I tried to shake it up a bit and got nowhere, ie meeting for a drink, cinema with one or both of them, lunch or early tea (friend has to eat early), visiting us for a games night (they agreed twice and cancelled both nights as tired).
If we mentioned we've been out for a drink, you can just tell it's a joke that we like a drink or two out (two are my limit). I won tickets to a dream event for us, DH decided to buy a new suit, and he got a snarky comment about who he looked like on tv - might be it wasn't meant that way, but they both know how much my win would mean to DH.
We're all 57-62 and it feels they're old for their time and we have less and less in common. AIBU?