To think we should just trust each other’s intuition on here?

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Whenever there’s a thread on here where an OP has no concrete proof, but has been getting bad vibes or senses things are a bit off (whether that be in a new relationship, job, from a stranger, etc). There always seem to be posters defending the other party and suggesting the OP has it wrong.

Should we not just assume the OP most likely has the correct gut feeling? Intuition is a powerful thing. It’s quite harmful for posters to take the “oh you might have it wrong… just be kind” approach.

@ReadingLight you are derailing the thread by talking about people with strongly held unreasonable beliefs.

YABU

if someone’s intuition was strong enough they’d not be posting on here surely?

The very act of posting indicates they’re not as sure as they need to be

Yes but why the af can’t he just say my motorbike won’t start. 🤯

Women in the whole tend to over think situations and will dwell on minute details.

If they post their suspicions saying it's a gut feeling they have then agreeing with them just die the sake of agreeing with them is feeding into their paranoia.

Far better to have balanced replies that offer different perspectives and views which may help the op think about other options as to why a partner may be acting a certain way instead of them having a fixed view.

Absolutely not. Most people posting on here seem like fruit loops. I don’t believe half of what is written and certainly wouldn’t trust their judgment or “intuition”.

Unreasonable beliefs meaning not credible and way outside any normal range.🙄

The issue is that many just jump to the worst case scenario without as much as an attempt to discuss it with the other person involved. My mind can go to a very dark place so no, my own intuition is not reliable. As a clinical scientist, I need concrete and irrefutable proof before I go all guns blazing.
I have been on both ends of bad decisions due to "gut feeling". My boyfriend broke up with me as he happened to glance on my phone when an explicit message from an ex I haven't seen or talked to for years came through. His gut feeling was that I was cheating on him, the reality was nothing of the sort. I am still not sure what processed the ex to send the message or if it was even meant for me but the damage was done and no amount of reason was good enough to salvage the situation because gUt FeEliNg
Similarly, I tied myself in knots thinking that my partner has someone on the side because his behaviour changed. The truth was that he had a significant event happen in his business which put his capital at risk and he was trying to deal with it alone without worrying me.
But women on here do project their own circumstances when giving advice so it doesn't hurt to have someone who can step back from the situation and say "what is the actual concrete evidence here?" if any.

In what way is it derailing a thread about accepting other people’s gut instincts as correct by pointing out that in some cases these ‘gut instincts’ are a matter of insecurity and paranoia?

Trauma can mess with your "gut instincts" and you may not even be aware of that.
Those of us who know we've suffered trauma sometimes need to untangle the two.

Like you my gut instinct is to assume bad faith from these people - it is such a great way to just fuck someone up who is looking for a bit of reassurance while getting to claim that you're bloody Jesus because you can see the good in everyone. I mean maybe some of them are trying to be nice. But I don't think so.
Those are always the same people who get really angry if someone posts a reverse. Yeah, because then they get caught out accidentally agreeing with the OP. I often wish you could tag usernames (privately, I don't mean name and shame) so I could see if someone's reply of "have you considered that maybe your MIL texting your SIL a picture of a whale with your name and fatty boom boom captioned on it might be the start of Alzheimer's" is a one off burst of optimism or a habit a judge their future output in that context.

I feel it’s patronising to women to automatically validate things they might perceive based on zero evidence. It’s okay to say that logically there are other explanations and other things to consider.

Women are often accused of being too emotional and irrational. I don’t believe that for an instant and will continue to treat the posters here as rational, level headed adults who are capable of weighing up information.

No

We only get the op side of things....often tweaked in their favour

So no, we shouldn't.

What would be the point of posting. It would make AIBU pretty redundant if everyone just agrees with the poster.