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Lack of commitment to plans

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MirrorCastle · 23/02/2024 07:30

I know people may reply that everyone has busy lives yada yada.

But...
I have a small group of girlfriends and we decided that we would get tickets to a concert and go away for the weekend together. The tickets were released and I got two and no one else did. The show sold out and now I am trying to get people to be proactive about finding tickets but everyone seems to have bailed on the plans after I have already got my ticket! Luckily I was smart enough to get an extra for a friend but it just feels like it wont be the same taking one friend instead of the group activity we all were hyped about doing. I am actually pretty annoyed by this and feel like its become the norm to be so flakey and I'm tired of being the one in my friend group that plans everything. I just feel like my friends either don't like me enough to even make an effort or remember the plans we make. Am I being dramatic or do I just give up on trying to make fun things happen?

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Justkeepswimmingswimming · 23/02/2024 07:33

Or they just didn’t really want to go on this trip.

CadyEastman · 23/02/2024 07:35

If they had wanted to go, they'd have tickets. Or perhaps they did want to go but they now can't afford tickets and a weekend away.

Mumdiva99 · 23/02/2024 07:39

Why didn't one of you get all the tickets? That's what we do....and we take it in turns to organise.
However, it's usually done like this - "I want to go and see X. Would anyone else like me to get them a ticket?" - then it can be anywhere from 1 of us to all of us go. No one is too pressurised to go. We all opt in if we want. Sometime for a local event people add on last minute if there are tickets left.

I'm guessing they weren't that bothered by the event. Don't push it. Just go and have fun. Do you have a friend that wants to go with you?

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MirrorCastle · 23/02/2024 07:40

Justkeepswimmingswimming · 23/02/2024 07:33

Or they just didn’t really want to go on this trip.

But how can people the week before be literally jumping up and down at the idea when I mentioned ticket sales were coming up at the end of the week? I understand if we spoke about it months ago and then they made other plans or financially things changed. But I would not be throwing out names of hotels to stay in, looking at restaurants for before and arranging ride shares if I did not intend to go?

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LameBorzoi · 23/02/2024 07:43

It is annoying - I feel that people get stuck in ruts sometimes and don't get around to living life.

Having said that, I agree with @Mumdiva99 's method - so long as you know that they will pay you.

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MirrorCastle · 23/02/2024 07:43

Mumdiva99 · 23/02/2024 07:39

Why didn't one of you get all the tickets? That's what we do....and we take it in turns to organise.
However, it's usually done like this - "I want to go and see X. Would anyone else like me to get them a ticket?" - then it can be anywhere from 1 of us to all of us go. No one is too pressurised to go. We all opt in if we want. Sometime for a local event people add on last minute if there are tickets left.

I'm guessing they weren't that bothered by the event. Don't push it. Just go and have fun. Do you have a friend that wants to go with you?

I will just do that next time as its a pain doing it the way I have. Some people are gutted they missed them are are looking for tickets, but I have seen many up for sale that none of them have attempted to get. I do have a friend who's very keen to go with the ticket I got her luckily,

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Justkeepswimmingswimming · 23/02/2024 09:00

MirrorCastle · 23/02/2024 07:40

But how can people the week before be literally jumping up and down at the idea when I mentioned ticket sales were coming up at the end of the week? I understand if we spoke about it months ago and then they made other plans or financially things changed. But I would not be throwing out names of hotels to stay in, looking at restaurants for before and arranging ride shares if I did not intend to go?

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I wouldn’t have bought the tickets without checking again with people to make sure they want to go.

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