Deleting toxic jealous family members ?

[Lunalunamama]

Hiya all,
I recently just got engaged to my boyfriend of 10 years it was quite a happy surprise but anyway most of my family members messaged to say congratulations except my uncle and 3 of my cousins which I found to be really upsetting. We never had any bad blood between us but sometimes jealous remarks and digs which I would often ignore over the years. I thought why would I want to be around people who are not happy for me but look at all my posts on Facebook but don't comment or interact but know every little thing that is going on that I post and bring up the negative aspects of my life than celebrate the good times. Am I being petty for deleting them?..
Thanks
Luna

Why do people expect a fuss when they get engaged, it's hardly an achievement.
Delete them if you want. But yes, of course its petty.

Congratulations! It sounds like they bring nothing but negativity to your life, you've done the right thing blocking them in my opinion! 💐

What is it that you think they’re jealous of?

Bit of an over reaction. Maybe they aren't wonderful emotionally mature people but also, maybe they thought you were already married, or thought, "about time" .

It's not much to wish you congratulations, i would have managed a "congratulations" but I wouldn't read as much into their silence as you have. Toxic and jealous, maybe. Or underwhelmed and not great with congratulatory messages.

Just achievements like getting a degree at university they didn't want to come to the celebration, when I bought a new house... I do not brag about anything but I invite them to celebrate with me they act funny towards me when things go well..but when things go wrong they want to know everything..

Huge overreaction.

You sound like a Bridezilla in Waiting.

Your engagement is possibly not the most exciting notification they had that day and they’ve forgotten about it? Some people just don’t bother with SM.

I can't get excited about engagements when the couple have been together for a decade. I mean, get married or don't, but an engagement is absolutely pointless.

Anyone that's been together for ten years I already see as in a permanent relationship (as much as any is). Such an engagement is hardly an exciting thing to be jealous of.

What jealous remarks have they made? Sometimes people are jealous but normally it is because you have done something that they cannot achieve. If someone just doesn’t like you or is indifferent that doesn’t mean they are jealous

You come across as someone who lives their life out on Facebook.

Maybe these relatives have actual lives they are busy going about.

Delete them if you wish. I wonder if they will notice or even care. It all seems terribly childish.

Have your cousins not got degrees? That would be unusual if they are post gen x. Degrees are 10 a penny now. I would go to my own dc ceremonies, wouldn’t enter my head to go to anyone else’s ceremony.

SUCH a lot of bollocks posts on here today. READ the updates people!

You have got the vibe from them that they don't celebrate anything good in your life @Lunalunamama and only perk up or take an interest if it's bad news.

Of course nobody needs to be whooping and yippy-ing on you behalf for any reason, but lt looks like there is a back story here.

Competition between siblings is something never to be underestimated - i don't know how your uncle is related - is he your dad's brother? but sometimes that causes tension as they are competing with each other or your uncle is brother to your mum and he doesn't want to be seen to be bettered by his sister?

In any event, just phase them out, leave them out of the details and go grey rock. No need for drama, you got their number, you know what they are like and you are not going to change them.

I'd rather know 1 person happy for me, than half a dozen cheering for my defeat. they are sad people and petty.

Have you come to this conclusion due to the lack of Facebook comments?

Those are all pretty standard things to do.

I don’t think they’re jealous, I think you just expect them to care too much.

Jesus the comments on this 🙄

I have similar family members, just delete them if you don't want them to know anything. If they want to know anything they can contact you via phone call or text. If they mention it say you thought they didn't use social media as they never interacted with you.

P.s congratulations on your engagement from a fellow fiancée after a decade 🥳

How can you even be certain that they saw your post?

You've been together 10 years. Your engagement is important to you but I wouldn't expect an uncle or cousins to be jumping up and down in joy 🤷

Does anyone get excited about an engagement?