To not cook for just weaned baby?

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DD is 7 months. She’s very slowly getting the hang of eating but isn’t eating anything really significant in the way of solids.

Monday, Tuesday and Friday (and weekends) I have her brother too so I make a child friendly meal and she can just have some of that. But on Wednesday and Thursday he is at nursery and eats there. AIBU not to make her a special meal and just give her a bit of toast or crumpet?

Jannier - I’m not getting into an argument. I’ve replied to that at least twice. I have taken what people have said on board, adapted the toast and crumpet recipe and all good.

I am not getting into the meal replacement thing, I really do agree with the poster above, it isn’t what I’m asking about and it really isn’t what I’m about here.

And the healthy eating message I will send to my children is pretty good. My children eat home cooked meals, I’m not constantly offering snacks, I recognise my weight is on the high side and I am reducing it. Selfishly, I don’t want to do so losing 1lb a week but I want to lose a bit faster for a holiday. I’m confident I can maintain the weight loss as I did the diet before in 2013 and managed to maintain until I got pregnant with DD and had a tricky time towards the end.

Just give her whatever from the fridge! Seven month olds aren’t eating for the calories, they are eating to practice chewing and be exposed to new textures and flavours.

Seeing mum not eating is the healthy eating message I'm talking about not whether you doing whatever diet you do works ...or are you saying this is what you want for your children as they get older. Your very aggressive

If she won't let you feed her, can you not warm up say an Ella's kitchen pouch, let it cool then put it on her high chair for her to explore with her hands. I know it's a mess and trust me I hate cleaning the high chair with a passion, it's probably the worst job for me in terms of something I clean daily but at your babies age it's all about exploring and textures.

Do you understand how this mindset will impact your children? I don't know if you're being flippant because you're annoyed at the responses you're getting, but if this is genuine, maybe you'd consider getting some help?

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I think at that age scrambled eggs or a few baked beans with toast fingers, or some mashed potato with cheese (cook a jacket in the microwave then mash up the middle without the skin) is good enough. Even just weetabix, or fruit and yoghurt, since she just starting to taste and learn how to eat real food. As you say it's only a couple on times a week

OP, you've come under a lot of perhaps unfair criticism on this thread for your diet, which tbf wasn't want you came on to ask about, and perhaps understandably you've become defensive. So I'm going to limit this comment to what you have asked about - are you unreasonable to give your LO just toast/crumpet for a meal?

Personally I think YANBU at the moment, but YABU to keep offering this as your LO grows. Ideally, her meals would be a bit more balanced than this. You certainly don't need to cook something complicated for every meal, but I'd always try to offer the following once they move past the simple purees and single foods stage - 1) a protein; 2) a carbohydrate; and 3) at least two fruits or veggies with each meal.

So by the time my baby was 10mo (and had a few teeth!), our typical 'easy' lunches would be something more like these:

• Toasted cheese or cheese sandwich, some cold sweetcorn, a handful of blueberries (chopped in half initially).
• Hummus/peanut butter on toast, some boiled carrot or broccoli pieces, a bit of banana.
• Some bits of cold chicken, microwave couscous with a few peas through it.

All things you can make in 5 minutes or less. But if I'm completely honest, a bit of toast/crumpet on its own is more what I'd give as a snack to a 1+yo.

OP I'm the poster who commented earlier suggesting mashed avocado as a quick food to eat. I just wanted to add that while a variety of food would be better, she is only 7 months so milk should still be her main source of nutrition so I'm sure the toast and the crumpet at the moment is doing her no great harm (though possibly constipation if too many white carbs). Totally agree with PP that it's what you feed her going forwards that's more important.

In my area there is no HV appointment from 8 weeks to 9-12 months which I think is ridiculous as HVs would be well placed to advise on this sort of thing relating to weaning.

I used to keep back potions of our dinner for his lunch and dinner at that age.

It's fine. Your baby is a baby and will not develop an ED in her teen years because you drank a slim fast shake while she ate toast twice a week.

Fucking hell this site is a menace to mums with young kids I have no idea why? Is the demographic skewed older?

I must be the slackest mother ever, there's no way on earth I'm doing special cooking for my DD, who is almost seven months. I have four kids and a full-time job, haha.

It's a shame she won't let you feed her a pouch. Wonder if she'd have a go eating one herself.

Too many people sounding terribly earnest not to mention judgemental - as you say yourself, she's barely eating anything yet anyway so I don't think it matters an awful lot.

You sound really lazy OP, cutting up a piece of fruit or a vegetable isn't that hard. I'm lazy too but even I can do better than a piece of toast