Hen Do Worry

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I've got a hen do this weekend in London across two days for one of my best friends. We've just had the itinerary and I'm trying not to panic, I'm 22 weeks currently and struggling already with back pain and PGP. Didn't have it with my first so it's hit hard this time round. Most of the first day is wandering around London doing sightseeing, hours walk away from the hotel we're staying in and the evening is the theatre, dinner and drinks til late. Second day is sightseeing round Camden all morning, then lunch, back to the hotel for bags and the tube back to the station for home.

It all sounds lovely but I'm trying not to panic with all the walking involved when I'm already struggling 🥺 really don't want to let my friend down but would it be unreasonable for me to say I'll chill in a coffee shop whilst they do the Saturday sightseeing and meet them for hotel check-in? The way I'm feeling right now walking I just know I couldn't do it and if I tried I'd be holding them up, but so don't want to be the person to cause a scene. I think because my first pregnancy was so easy it's assumed it's the same this time. All opinions welcome, trying not panic too much about it and just don't want to let my friend down. TIA x

Just tell her that you will honestly struggle with the walking, but will join her as much as possible.

Absolutely warn the bride and MOH in advance you can't walk far and you might sit out some activities or watch and wait in a coffee shop. If either are anything other than nice then you don't need to go at all

Yanbu. Don’t panic. Explain you’re not up to a lot of walking so will be happy to stay by yourself while others do the walking bits but you’ll meet up for meal/drinks/theatre etc. A good friend won’t want you to suffer.

Ps the group could also hire you a wheelchair if they want to include you- we did this for a friend on an abroad hen who couldn't walk far for other health reasons

Yes I would just say ahead of time that you’ll join them for the bits you can but you’re unexpectedly struggling with mobility at the minute so might have to go back to the hotel for a break and then meet them later.

Had some PGP with one of mine and it was awful. Chiropractor improved it a lot (obviously pregnancy specialist one) but when it was bad walking that much would have been really difficult. Totally fine to let them know and join what you can - hope you still have a fun trip

It's not mandatory to do all that fgs. You're an adult. Either go and just do the bits you want to do or think you can do. Or sack it off. What do you think will happen if you don't go?

Could you just do the theatre and dinner?
They should realise all that walking isn't ideal for you.

Just go to what you can manage — tell her as soon as possible so she knows the score. Absolutely fine not to tramp around the city whilst preg! Don’t give it another thought.