Women with humour - uncouth

[Strawberr13s]

I have a friend who is so funny, not in a telling jokes way, she has witty responses and does funny impressions/acting out of scenarios and she often finds me funny to the point of crying with laughter which could just be because she is in a jovial mood rather than me being funny.

Over the years, her style of humour has rubbed off on me and often I click with people because (I think) I put them at ease.

But I've noticed in groups often that I end up feeling awkward and self conscious after acting in this jovial way and I feel a little of an outsider than everyone else who is cooler and I definitely don't carry it off as well as my friend but also, I'm not actively trying to be like her but the crossover feels most like 'me'.

Is a funny woman uncouth? Maybe I need to reign in my humour. I do know when is the time for humour and when isn't but lately I'm wondering if I need to keep humour more in reserve until I have peoples respect.

God, that sounds exhausting.

Just be you.

Can't say I've ever given it this much thought. I say things I think are funny and people on a similar wavelength laugh. We click. They find me funny, I find them funny. We all have a good time.

Seems like you're really overthinking this.

The "women with humour are uncouth" idea is blatant sexism. Even if it's true, why is it implicitly worse for women to be uncouth than men? These "cooler" women you mention would hate the groups I hang out with, all loud, witty, funny women. So no, you don't need to rein (not reign) in your humour as a general rule. Sure, read the room, but don't suppress yourself.

You sound as if you’re performing as your friend in group situations, and it’s not really you. Maybe calm down a bit initially? It’s not as though you need to hit them all with your hilarity as soon as you meet them.

Not uncouth at all, I should know I'm hilarious apparently

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Think it just depends on the mood, situation. It’s obviously not always appropriate and people find different thing funny.
if you’re feeling like an outsider maybe these people are just not for you, or humour isn’t called for in that situation.
i personally don’t have a problem with funny women. Although I do find both sexes that try to hard quite tiresome to be around.

I don't what being myself is! Its definitely more towards the humour side I feel. When I'm serious, I think people think I'm stuck up! I know people have told people that they thought I was stuck up (ex partners/friends of in-laws type thing) but any airs and graces I may have come from an inferiority complex of feeling looked down on when I was younger. Sometimes I reckon I use humour to show I'm not stuck up.

How do you be yourself when you're an overthinker!!!???!!!

This is exactly like me. I'd say just be you because there's people like me out there that would find you funny and cool. Humour any day.