My son and his girlfriend are both 16 and have been dating 8 months. They're very devoted to each other and practically inseparable. Early in their relationship I was chatting with her mum, who is an old school friend and I often see socially as we go to the same gym classes and usually grab a coffee afterwards. She had said how much she thinks of my son and that they are both lovely together, but if they ever hit any tricky patches and we can help, she'd be happy to talk to me.
I wasn't 100% comfortable with this, and she must have read this in my face as she expanded and said for example if one of them needed a break for studies, we could both encourage a little less time together. I didn't agree or disagree - it didn't sit well with me (they're 16, not 6, and I'd not want to be going behind his back really).
Fast foreword to Christmas, they both got their mock results back and didn't do as well as predicted. Since then, I've tried to encourage more organisation to the study so they can both revise at the same time away from the distraction of each other, but it's not happening. They go for food after school and can spend hours sat chatting.
The last battery of tests didn't go well for either of them as they're still not leaving each other alone for 5 mins.
They've another 3 months before the GCSE exams start. Do you think I should say something to her mum as she had mentioned, to suggest we encourage them to study at the same time, say before 8pm or am I being unreasonable and controlling, going behind their backs? I haven't said anything to son, but I'm pretty sure if I told him I'd be chatting to O's mum about working out a schedule, he'd not be on board with that, as they're only focus is each other. I'm really torn!