I'm possibly being unreasonable, but then again, possibly not!
My DH sometimes has to travel further afield for work, and therefore has to leave early. When he does this, he always likes to kiss me goodbye before he goes, even when I'm sleeping. He only leaves about 15 minutes or so before my regular alarm goes off, so I have no problem with being woken earlier and actually I think it's sweet after 20+ years of marriage that he still wants to do this.
However, my issue is that he, trying to be considerate, creeps around getting ready quietly so as not to wake me, and then swoops down to give me a very gentle kiss before leaving which startles me awake. It's really uncomfortable to wake up because I have the sensation of someone swooping down towards me.
I've tried to explain to him that kissing me before he goes is always going to wake me, and I'd rather be woken up by normal noise than by the sensation of someone moving down towards me. I've also explained that I'm fine waking up a bit earlier on the days that he's leaving early. But still he insists on creeping around because he "doesn't want to wake me". I think as a man, he just doesn't understand that a sleeping women is vulnerable and the sensation of someone swooping down towards you while you are sleeping is startling and sets off a physical response. It actually takes me a couple of hours to not feel a bit jittery after being woken like this.
So, am I unreasonable to tell him to not bloody kiss me goodbye in the mornings if I'm not already awake?