I'm thinking this would be a step backwards?

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I got great advice on here about 2 years ago after my breakup as myself and my ex were in the same hobby club and I was conflicted about returning or not after we broke up, I felt I'd be returning for the wrong reason and wanted nothing to do with him.

Anyway, I joined a new club and I've really settled in and enjoy it now. Only occasionally I feel a little nostalgic for the old.

Lately, I seem to have bumped into people from old club more than usual and all are encouraging me to return now that a couple of years has passed so that's why it's come into my mind. I did enjoy their company, nice people, but I'd like to continue to avoid my ex, even though I'm well over him now.

Am I being silly and give it a chance to reconnect with old acquaintances?

AIBU - return to old club
AINBU - stay where I am

Stay where you are but you could message anyone you really liked and ask them to go for a coffee

Unless you really don’t enjoy where you currently are id stay put.

You have had good advice already. It would be a shame to leave somewhere you enjoy. Do you know if your ex is still in the old hobby club? Second meet those you particularly like socially.

Yes, he's still in the club. I do meet those I was closest to, socially outside the club.

Is it the kind of hobby where you can do two clubs, or would you have to leave the new one to go back to the old one?

Yes, you could do both - I'm just not sure I want to. I suppose only for the encouragement of the others, I'm happy where I am. I know some of them think it's unfair that I left

Then I would stay at the new club and see the people from the old club socially.

If you want to continue to avoid your ex that's going to mean avoiding places where you know he will be, like the hobby club you know he goes to.

This. You should prioritise your understandable wish to avoid your ex. It’s nice that the members of the old club miss you, but it’s not the key element here.

If you don’t want to go back then you shouldn’t just because you’re being pressured to. That said, after 2 years I’d think it’s time to move on and not let an ex hold you back from doing things you want to do.

I think the question is, if your ex moved across the country tomorrow and stopped going to that club, would you start going again? If the answer is no, even if he wasn’t there you wouldn’t go then don’t go. If the answer is yes, you’d join back up in a heartbeat if he wasn’t an issue then I think you should look at going again and not letting a break up control your social life.

That's a good way to put it, I'd probably stay where I am. It might seem silly after 2 years, but he hurt me a lot and I don't want ever to become his 'friend'.

I wouldn't return, it sounds like you're happy where you are, meeting new people etc.