i just need a rant to people who dont know me
mum died less than 2 weeks ago and is not yet buried. i was her carer as she was disabled and i did everything for her, bill paying, shopping, taking her out and on holidays, everything.
my brother did fuck all, yes hes also disabled but has not problems getting 2 buses and walking up to watch his team play footy. its 1 bus (the same one to town) and about 1/8 of the walking distance
he barely rang her, his son hasnt seen her in 5 years and none of them said thank you for any presents yet now its constant messages saying how can i help, do you want help with the house and we know its just so he can eye things up so i asked how come he can offer all this help now and get over to mums yet when she was alive he could do fuck all!
whenever he did ring mum it was 30 secs of how mum was and then 30 mins of listening to all his problems, which he repeated when he did speak to her so the same news twice even if its had been months since they last spoke
i also have a sister, she lives 2 hours away yet still came over often, had mum to stay to give me a break
mums will is everything to be split 3 ways, profits from sale of house included.
in the last 6 days we have had basically demands not requests, for a sideboard unit, the brand new flooring downstairs and also mums chair which mum actually said i could have. brother wants this as apparently hes disabled and im not.... but i am! i have lower back problems following a slipped disc and removal 15 years ago, have the start of arthritis in my neck an upper arms and am also diabetic but i guess that doesnt count for this issue.
for a quiet life i said just let him have the goddamn chair, his response whan can you drop it off for me!
the flooring we told him no chance, its going with the house. this was also requested i remove and deliver
todays demand for the sideboard has been the one thats pushed us too far and we have told him that nothing is going to be discussed until probate is sorted.
personally i dont give a crap about anything, couldnt give a shit if i get £5 or £50k, id rather have my mum instead
even my kids have said do we have to have anything to do with him when its all over
that feels so much better just for writing it down