Lost my job today: positive stories please

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I have just lost my job and feel like the rug has been pulled from under my feet. I don't need any advice, I have a solicitor, but I feel bereft. I loved that job. Please can you share some positive stories where you have come out on the other side. Please. Any books, amy podcasts, any therapy or coaching that helped you through? Please help

Please. Any books, amy podcasts, any therapy or coaching that helped you through? Please help

I'm sorry OP. try to do something you like, be distract yourself from over thinking when you notice it.

For books or podcasts, It really depends what you were fired for... If there's a habit you need to change or If they were just horribly abusive to you for no reason.

Something to help with Imposter syndrome would be great.

I'm so sorry op, that sucks. These videos really helped me

They are not really about imposter syndrome, but it's nice to listen to someone who has been through the same thing

I got made redundant last year. It was at a company and role I loved. I’m found a job with a nice company, same pay and a promotion!

Were you made redundant? I'm so sorry you're going through this. It happened to me last year and it was the biggest shock ever. Once I'd had some time to process, i realised that I'd been working in an incredibly toxic environment. I now have another job and am very happy. Everyone else I've spoken to who had been made redundant said they ended thinking it was a blessing. It might not feel like it now but give it time.

Hi OP,
So sorry you're dealing with this. I recommend Mel Robbins - she has a a couple of books out as well as a podcast, is on instagram, and has a YouTube channel. She has episodes on imposter syndrome.
She's not everyone's cup of tea but I really find her advice helpful and straightforward.
Wishing you all the best.

I'm so sorry to hear you've lost your job OP. I can't recommend any podcasts but can share a positive story!
My DS (he's early 30s) lost his job end of last year (engineer.) Company was actually a bit of a nightmare and kept having a go at him saying he wasn't quick enough, fast enough etc. He really struggled thinking that he was slow, couldn't do the job etc., but didn't want to leave in case he couldn't get another job thinking he wasn't good enough, quick enough etc (the whole imposter syndrome you've mentioned.) Anyway, he got the sack.
Now he's 3 month in to a new permanent position that pays him £15k+ pa more than his last job and he's being very successful there.
His imposter syndrome was caused by ridiculous expectations from a company who just wanted to make a quick buck and were more bothered about signing off a job even if it wasn't up to standard than giving the customer what they had paid for. He's actually way more aware of his worth now thanks to the shite he went through with his old company and he is now in a better place emotionally and financially.
I hope you find out the same for you too OP.

It is a shit time and you will feel like you have lost control. You haven't - just think of it as a push in the right direction. You just need to get back control and start planning what you will do next.

This may be worth a listen..
https://www.sciencefocus.com/the-human-body/instant-genius-podcast-how-to-overcome-imposter-syndrome

When I was made redundant I was walked out of the building. Not just me but good god that was humiliating. I went to the local phone box, called my then DH and cried. Within a couple of weeks I knew what I wanted to do - took a course I had been itchy to do for years. Not a career choice, but still life changing. Carried on working elsewhere. Next year I hope to take the next part. 10 years on - wish me luck - just getting my application together.

I have been made redundant before. Although it was not personal and several others were paid off too it does make you feel worthless and rejected. However, I ended up with a much better job much closer to home, fantastic colleagues and career options. Would never had been here if not paid off.

Thank you all. I feel so humiliated. I loved that job so much. Loved it.