To think this delivery guy was being weird?

[BobbyBiscuits]

I'm not sure if I'm just so used to Amazon parcels being left on my doorstep, without the driver even bothering to knock the door, or giving my parcels willingly to strange neighbours who I don't know, Or leaving them in the dirty recycling box without our consent...

But, this driver today seemed really overzealous and weird.

There was a delivery for my DH (the second of the day) and my 84 yo Mum answered the door.
He said the name, she said yes. Rather than handing it over, he asked for her name.
She gave her first name. By then I was standing there. He then said Oh..(first name), (DH surname)'
She said no. Gave her own surname. He frowned. I then interjected with, 'we don't have the same surname as him'.
He still didn't want to give the parcel.
He said 'where is he?'
At this point I slightly lost my cool, but said. 'He's upstairs.' Blank look from driver. 'He's disabled, HE CAN'T WALK!'
At that point he handed the parcel over, seemingly a bit embarrassed.

This was just a normal day to day item (handheld vacuum), not something weird or dangerous.
He must be new but he won't last long if he does that all day!

Does anyone think it's bizarre to ask for someone's name, then assume their surname would be the same as recipient, when they have accepted the parcel at the address marked on same parcel? And to try and demand to know where the recipient is?

I don’t think they even go through all that for special delivery as long as they get a signature or a photo of a human being

Maybe they're new on the job and trying to be thorough?

You didn't need to snap at him
"Sorry, that's my DH. He's disabled and can't come downstairs"

He was just making sure it got to the right place. It's probably what they are told to do and he's new so following rigidly before settling into the role and knowing where he can "loosen off"

He was just checking the recipient was there I think your response was over the top and rude. You shouldn’t talk to people like that, he wasn’t to know the recipient was disabled. Do you rant about everyone you meet who isn’t a mind reader?!

I wasn't ranting, I said he can't walk. That's the truth. He doesn't need to be a mind reader or not, this is the address on the parcel, we said yes to the parcel. I failed to understand why he was asking that question and I did lose my cool. I would never usually act like that with a delivery man but I never had one be so cagey about handing over the bloody parcel! Haha.

I would appreciate it if parcel deliverers always did this.

Oh, poor guy 😔 I think he just wanted to maybe sure it was delivered to the right person. Perhaps he’s been told off for leaving a parcel somewhere the recipient couldn’t find it or something like that. You just don’t know.

Yes you are ranting, you’re ranting on here. Bit horrible to say he won’t last long in his job just because he had you to deal with.

I mean I'm disabled but I wouldn't act like that or expect any of my family members to. I might be a bit but I'd just explain and take the parcel. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Don't think he's anything to be embarrassed about tbh but you do.

No I think you was being weird, my kids get the delivery for me sometimes and they ask for the name my kids say my name not their name?? Even my kids know to say the name of the person the delivery is for

Consensus seems that I was weird, and that I was ranting at the delivery man and on here.

Oh dear. No excuses but I have had a lot of very traumatising things happen to me/ DH lately. If I see him again I guess I should apologise.

I still stand by the fact he won't last long in the job. If the driver is asking "where is he?' to every customer who isn't the named recipient. What if they said "He's not here"...Would he take the parcel away with him? He'd only do half his deliveries?

You posted here asking for opinions.
People gave them.
I suspect the driver will last longer on Amazon than you will if you keep disrespecting Amazon drivers.
It’s disrespectful and unnecessary.

So first you complain they drop deliveries off without checking details and then when one does check you complain😆what would you LIKE them to do?! You already said they leave them with strange neighbours, I'm assuming those neighbours have also said "yes" to the delivery. He doesn't care your mother has a different surname he's simply trying to ascertain if the person the delivery is for actually lives there. Maybe you complained before about how lax they've been?

Come on people, no need to have a go at the OP like this.
He wasn’t just checking details, he asked where OP’s husband was - that isn’t usual for delivery drivers and I don’t believe they’re told to do that. If they’d said “he’s at work”, would he have taken the parcel back?
He was at the correct address, the OP’s mum said yes to the name on the parcel i.e. yes that person lives here. He then asked the OP’s mum her name. That isn’t usual or necessary.
OP said it wasn’t a high value item and he can’t have been given special instructions to check the identity of the person receiving it.

Does seem like he was a bit inarticulate, perhaps new to the job or just having one of those days. I don't think it's especially unusual for them to ask for the name of the person who takes in the parcel, as some of them will log who it was handed to. I don't understand why he asked where you DH was though, never experienced that one!

He’s just doing his job.

Me too. Dear OP, it's you that are being weird. Or are you bored today?

I know at least one company, I think it might be DPD, charge their drivers if a customer says a parcel wasn't delivered (if the driver has marked it as delivered). Sometimes people do lie. I have a neighbour who openly admits if Amazon leave her parcels outside she will say she never got them even if she did.
If this driver has had something like that happen to him maybe he's just being extra cautious.

This is not the delivery drivers fault, he didn't cause your issues, he had a job to do

This happened in February. Why revive the thread?!?

@eurochick haha, I thought that. Wasn't my finest moment and I felt bad about it after.