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NHS waiting lists are a mess (paeds)

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ARMSDOWN · 19/02/2024 23:33

Just here to have a moan. My son has sleep apnoea (huge tonsils and likely big adenoids) and severe glue ear. Waited nearly a year to see ENT after first referral and likely to be another year before he gets surgery with other tests in between. His sleep is awful (therefore mine is too), he can't hear properly, his behaviour is awful in loud settings because he has to work hard to hear so gets angry, there's a small risk of permanent damage to ears etc. I don't understand how we've got to a point that a simple surgery and grommet insertion takes 2 years to get to (ok, I do understand but I really, really hate it). We're exhausted. He's only 5. Has anyone had a similar wait? Did things improve quickly after surgery?

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ARMSDOWN · 20/02/2024 16:23

Toppppop · 20/02/2024 10:12

My eldest had severe ear infections after starting preschool at 3. For 18m a cycle of bursting both drums about 4x in that time.
Like a pp we also had behavioural issues.
she is now on a indefinite asd and adhd waitlist.

she is already 12.
Even when being referred still not one hearing test...

i agree we are ending up with kids with behaviour issues and social issues beceause we arent treating the root cause.

yes the ear infections might stop but saving nhs 2k when its going to cost probably that much to do the asd referral and if dc ends up unable to work.

op can you get allergy testing?

Did the dc have reflux etc?
or try increasing vit d and omega 3 to fight off the colds/bacteria

would you say they get dehydrated?

He's had a rast test. No allergies. Has daily vitamins. Don't remember any reflux issues.

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LovedFedAndNoonesDead · 25/02/2024 09:00

Have come back to the thread because, on Friday, I received yet another text from the (not so) local hospital (we live in an area where there are 2 hospitals that we can be referred to which are both around an hour’s drive away with nothing closer, not even a private hospital) asking us to complete their questionnaire Co confirm either
a) we had sought treatment elsewhere
b) the issue has resolved and we no longer wish to stay on the waiting list
c) we would like to discuss with the consultant whether the treatment is no longer needed
or
d) whether we wish to remain on the waiting list

This is the 4th time we’ve been asked to complete this futile exercise - last time, I received the same request twice in 4 days either side of a weekend and, when I rang to query why I’d had it twice so quickly and also to confirm it was for the same reason (you get the same thing if you’re waiting for an appointment or surgery so I wanted to make sure I wasn’t confusing things!) they said that we should receive it when we reach 40 weeks on the waiting list and then at similar intervals until we reach the top of the waiting list!!

DS was referred to ENT just after his second birthday for issues with severe snoring (he snores worse than his DF - and that’s saying something!), possible sleep apnoea with daytime somnolence and enlarged, asymetrical tonsils that, even with no evidence of infection or inflammation, touch. He is also diagnosed with asthma and possible allergy induced wheeze plus reactive eczema. His first ENT appointment was when he was 3 years 3 months where they agreed that he definitely needed skin prick testing and further input from their team once that was done. He was prescribed steroid nasal spray and saline washes to try to improve the situation - we used them for more than 6 months with no beneficial effect so stopped them - the skin prick test took around 3 months to be done and showed allergy to pet dander, house dust mite and tree and grass pollens. Their only solution was to have the steroid spray and wait to see the ENT surgeon again. We were lucky, that follow up appointment only took another 3 months to come through (so 6 months from when he was last seen by the team) and the consultant was immediately happy to add him to the surgical waiting list and said it should take around 6 months for him to have surgery. He also said they would continue to follow him up afterwards as, if the snoring and sleep apnoea weren’t resolved by surgery, he would need further investigations.

That appointment was in April last year and the N only thing we’ve heard since then was, when I chased up in October last year, when I was told that he was 115 on the waiting list and it would possibly take another year for surgery depending on whether more urgent cases were added after him that would take precedence. I’ll probably contact them again in a few weeks to see if that has changed at all especially as I’ve had another of their ‘questionnaires ’ to complete. I’m sure they hope parents will get fed up waiting and seek private treatment but we can’t afford to - while some people may be able to put the cost on a credit card or cancel a couple of holiday’s to be able to afford to, or even pay for a private care policy such as Benenden Health, we aren’t amongst them so rely on the NHS for treatment no matter how broken the system is and how long we have to wait for appointments or surgery.

Maria1988rob · 23/07/2024 17:41

Been waiting since November 2023 for a community peadatrican appointment. 8 year old son is waiting for ASD panel for austim and ADHD. The wait time for panel is ,+48 months. It's all so draining!

NotInvolved · 23/07/2024 18:03

Not paediatrics...though it was when we started which kind of says something! My DS started with a visual problems when he was doing his GCSEs. He's just going into his final year at University and things are finally resolved because I have paid for him to have his treatment privately. He did have something done on the NHS about 3 years ago but it failed and when he was seen for a follow up appointment we were told he'd be seen by another Consultant within 6 weeks. Still not had that appointment! Apparently the doctor left, hasn't been replaced and everyone has just been left hanging. No information was provided, I only found out by ringing repeatedly. It's taken 2 years of private treatment to correct the problem and mistakes were definitely made at our local hospital so I probably wouldn't go back anyway but the lack of communication is appalling. I know they can't run clinics if they don't have the staff but failing to communicate or offer advice on alternatives is appalling. They didn't even seem surprised or bothered when DS rang to tell them what had happened to him since he was last seen.
I hope the new government can improve things but I fear it's all too far gone now.

Nameeeechangee · 23/07/2024 19:30

BoPeepsSheep · 20/02/2024 00:36

It’s high time people started asking questions about how money is spent. My ‘chain of command’ pays a lot of money to managers who add nothing. At all. £80k to do nothing, several times over.

that would pay for 2.5 physiotherapists.

I work in paeds, our waiting list is 2 years. Money is wasted. A lot of it!

That's exactly how I feel about the NHS. So much money wasted that could be spent on the staff that's actually needed 😞

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