Cups bowls etc wishing for washing up. Placed in sink filled with cold water and a generous squirt of watching up liquid

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First world problem! OH does this. Don't understand benefit and cups take longer to wash up to get the washing up liquid / taste clear. Views?

LTB

Eewww. And then you have to put your hand in cold sink water??? 🤢

LTB.

On the side until properly washed up with HOT water (preferably so hot you need gloves).

Get a dishwasher. Life changing.

So he doesn't actually wash anything up, but leaves things to soak in COLD water? In the time it takes to do this, he could be running hot water and be done half the washing up, but I dare say he leaves the actual work to you? Probably runs cold water as he doesn't want to waste fuel heating the water, knowing it will be cold by the time YOU get to actually do the work part of the deal!!

My DH does this too. He'll also fill up the sink to the brim for one dirty cup. Worse though is he shoves plates and bowls in the washing up water that still have food on them so the water ends up filthy.

Crazy thing is we have a perfectly good dishwasher next to the sink!

This gives me so much rage. It clutters the sink so make quick rinse/washing up actually harder. And if the item being ‘soaked’ is dirty, it really smells.

Lazy people love to soak things

DP, has an even more annoying method. He packs everything into the bowl, in a very tidy fashion, looks very neat,like his packed suit cases (ex navy), but you can't just tip the water out and refill, because he stands the plates up at the side of the bowl, and every mm of space is used. I have to pick the wet things out, and put them back on the bench, and start again. 😠

It's a man thing. They put all the dishes in a bowl, hot water, washing up liquid, then they don't wash them. Leave the water to go cold, grease and scum rise to the top leaving a disgusting mess. The washing up fairy then comes along and sorts it. Yup, we also have a dishwasher. What the fuck is the point of piling up dishes into the sink until it's full then I come along and have to take them all out again, fill the bowl or dishwasher etc. Or deal with the cold greasy scum water???? Ahhh the days when I was single 🙄

An ex called it steeping. Gives me the fucking rage.

See also any water that isn't super hot with suds left in the sink or food left in the plug hole filter thing. Fucking fucks sake.

Also any kind of washing up or cleaning sone with bare hands. Boak.

And leaving any dishes on the side when there is space in the dishwasher.

Parents need to teach their children and teenagers better habits. By the time they are adults they should be cleaning up after themselves, not leaving their mess for someone else to sort out.
I have twins heading off to university next year and I am on a university Facebook page. I despair of parents who say things like, “Ho ho, my young person is terrible about cleaning up after themselves. I’m sure their flatmates will soon whip them in to shape…”
The photos I have seen of their child’s filthy university room or their disgusting shared kitchen make me feel so sorry for their fiat mates.
Why should other people have to live with their slovenly, disgusting mess? Why should other teens have to teach them to clean up after themselves- that’s the parents job.
Bu the time they are adults it’s too late - the habits are set and they are just a divorce waiting to happen.

I agree @ThursdayTomorrow that's just parenting. I aspire to send my dds into the world managing better than that!

Problem is most DDs do seem to know better. It’s the bloody DSs who seem to reach adulthood still believing in the washing up fairy

My DH did this when we came back from honeymoon many years ago. I’d cooked dinner and he left everything in the sink to steep where it remained for the next 5 days as did every dish he used. He couldn’t fathom why I always had crockery and cutlery - I washed them and put them neatly on top of my wardrobe for the next use. It was day 7 or 8 if I remember correctly that his mum came round to visit and tore strips off him for being an embarrassment to the way she’d brought him up. He’s never left a dish soaking or dirty since although we have a dishwasher now.

I have so many questions. Not least... Cutlery on top of your wardrobe?

Until you get a teen that will walk past even an open dishwasher, to dump dishes in the sink.

Ha! Thanks all

Ask away. When you’ve lived in a house with other students until you move out you wash your own stuff, keep your washed cutlery in zip lock bags and your plates in clean Tupperware boxes after they’re washed. I used to keep my pots and all utensils in boxes too - no way would I have left them in the filthy kitchen. I will be forever grateful I had a sink in my room back then and didn’t need to touch the sink in the kitchen. We were nearly divorced in the first week after leaving those dishes festering in the sink.

Or my Ex…

In that case @Herdinggoats I must lecture the dds about dumping men immediately who can't wash up.

Exp drove me a bit mad never wiping the table down and then using it to sort wasjing on ffs. Current dp yanks everything off the table and looks scared when I get the sponge out 🤣

My view is buy a dishwasher. End of problem, or he has to go!

I want stuff stacked up on the side so I can use the sink.

Agree. Sink should be empty unless it's in use. See also storing clothes in the washing machine grrr