Aibu to not go to this wedding?

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Had an invite to evening do of a wedding of not close family member (think 2nd cousin once removed sort of thing) on dps side. I haven't seen b2b in over a year and have met groom once. Neither do nor I want to go. Not that it matters but we're the only cousin group where our kids have not been invited. Dps siblings/kids invited to whole thing, hen do etc. Only saying this as to me it's clear that bride and groom won't really be bothered if we don't go.

My DM is v ill just now and I'm not in the mood to go.

Dmil has said to DP that we HAVE to go, and that if invite was from my side of family we would go (which is nonsense by the way!)

Need to RSVP soon - are we being unreasonable? I think an invite is just that - an invite, not a summons.

So as not to drip feed - it is likely to be a v drunken event, almost sure to end up with fighting.

Of course you don’t have to go. Although can DP not go alone?

MIL needs to keep her beak out. If you don't want to go, don't go, and shut down any guilt-tripping or interfering. It's nobody's business but yours.

Could DP go to the evening do if their side of the family if it is local and going to cause great hiatus from MIL and Co. And you chill out at home?

But it's an invite and if neither of you want to go, then don't.

You don't have to go if you don't want to. Your DP can go if he likes. MIL can keep her beak out.

MIL can keep her nose out, none of her business, if neither of you want to go then don’t, it’s one of the best things about being an adult that you can choose what you do and don’t want to do :)

Thank you, reassuring that I'm not way off the mark. Dmil NEVER turns down an invitation, just moans about them!

Fighting ?!

Sounds delightful.

I'd give it a swerve.

I would have to be very close to someone to attend just the evening portion of a wedding. It’s my least favorite part of a wedding.