To wonder who was wrong in this scenario?

[Armanya]

So, I met a school mum friend and we kind of hit it off straight away. We were always at each other's houses etc and doing things together and our girls were extremely close.

Anyway, she invited me on a road trip with her for a week and I said I would love to come, DD and I were really excited for it to be just the 4 of us. I received a text message one day to say her DH was now coming due to childcare issues (he has another child with his ex)

I felt really uncomfortable about it, I had already booked and paid for flights home as she was staying longer anyway. I felt I was I would be intruding in a family holiday and obviously my DD may have felt left out if her step sister was going too. I told her I didn't want to come, she insisted on giving me the money back for my flights but later threw it back in my face saying her DH told her to not be stupid by giving me the money back.

I am a bit gutted about this as the girls was so close, I even reached out to her after a few months and she ignored me. She said she feels sorry for my DH because if I wouldn't put him first in that scenario then I am a rubbish wife, I jus dont think my Dh would put me in that position though?

She moved the goalposts and changed the dynamic of the holiday. Being anything other than apologetic about it would make her a pretty crappy friend IMO

She was apologetic but then sent me huge message on how she gave me the money back out of her own pocket as her DH refused. I told her not to give it me back though. She said she was looking at ways around it but I already felt that I should let them go as a family instead. I wouldn't expect a friend to still come if that was me

Do you think her husband was giving her grief about going away without him? The ridiculous "rubbish wife" comment raises suspicion.

My Poor DD mentions her all the time, Luckily we moved areas and was able to get DD into the school I initially applied for (this was before this happened though) we live almost round the corner from each other and she mentions her pretty much every time we see her house. I did try to reach out though a few weeks after the event.

Sounds like she's playing mouthpiece to her dickhead husband to be honest. Calling you a crappy wife because you wouldn't be ok letting a friend down to pander to your husband who apparently can't manage to look after his own child alone? Definitely his words her lips.

It's a shame but some friendships just aren't meant to last. I think her and her husband are in the wrong though. I wouldn't want to go along on someone else's family holiday either.

I have never actually fallen out with anybody before, just feel bad for DD I suppose