What does this mean?

[blondie877]

DP and I split recently. He said he "had to accept I've gone" and when we started talking again it was messing his head up, does this mean he's over me? He says he loves me and wants to be with me but it sounds like he got over it and I'm just convenient now

He's accepted that you can't be together.

Why are you so talking to him about stuff like this. If you have children together then limit your conversions to parenting.

Second guessing what he means makes it look like you're not over him

Who initiated the split? Why did you start talking again? Are there kids involved? There's really not much to go on here...

I think he's been completely honest, what's not to understand?

Just struggling to understand if he's over me or wants to be together. To me saying "I've accepted you've gone" makes it sound like he's over me. But then he'll message saying he loves me and wants me back

It's confusing as hell.

Decide what you want and work from there.

If you don't want to be with him then don't respond to his messages. If you have children then only discuss the children.

If you want to be with him, tell him and work through the issues that split you up.

Why did you break up?

Why are you allowing yourself to be jerked around by this man? Stop talking to him and let it be over.

I get what he's saying. He can still love and miss you but accepts you've left and its over.

So I am going to take it as you still sleeping together and you are the one initiating it?
In that case, he is telling you that by keeping showing up you are causing him pain and you need to stop making contact as he NEEDS to move on from you as it is clearly not going anywhere. I mean, he is being pretty clear about that.