I have name changed as this is incredibly outing but I can't give the full picture without the details.
I have a young adult child who has T1 Diabetes. He is in denial about this and doesn't monitor his bloods/take his insulin as he should. I have tried every approach under the sun and nothing gets through to him. It is a constant source of stress and worry.
Said child is now at university 90 miles away from home. On Friday he messaged saying he had woken up and been sick three times then fallen back to sleep for hours. Obvious symptoms of DKA, after probing he says he's not had an insulin because he hasn't picked up his prescription.
He picked it up and by Saturday he said he felt fine. I feel he should have gone to hospital to get checked properly as DKA is a medical emergency. He says he's not in DKA so I pretty much have to take his word for it. He says he feels much better.
I have had conversations about how worried I am and how I suspect DKA with DP and Dbrother who was having dinner with us. The main point of this being the DP knows how worried I am.
Yesterday his friends sibling died. I see this on facebook and I know that her brother has suffered severe complications due to uncontrolled diabetes due to past conversations.
DP comes home, walks in the door and says Guess what X's brother died of! DKA!
I tell him I don't want to hear about it and he carries on saying how shocked he is. I am clearly upset and told him how insensitive he is being given how worried I am about DS. He says oh don't be silly Son (not his son) is fine, he said he's not in DKA. It's not about Son.
I repeated I didn't want to talk about it. He gets a bit annoyed and says oh sorry should I tell Xs brother to die next week instead.
I was crying at this point, not making a fuss, not sobbing or anything just tears streaming, I couldn't help it.
He finishes his dinner, strops off upstairs and didn't speak to me all night.
So was I being overly sensitive and making it about me or was he being insensitive?
He didn't know the brother so he wasn't upset over the death, he was coming at it more like juicy gossip!