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Break up help!? Living with ex DP

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Greenhouse12 · 18/02/2024 21:46

I'm really unsure how to deal with the situation.

Still living with ex our house is sold and it looks like the sale is about to fall through so I can't move out as he won't do what needs to be done to get the house sold again.

Currently he's sneaking women in to our house (thinks I don’t know) he's sleeping with multiple women one of whom is his ex who is cheating on her boyfriend. Whilst Im tempted to be petty I really Dont care enough for the drama and just want rid of him.

I do occasionally look through his phone just to see what he's saying about me (not justifying it) but he's bitching about me to his sister saying how spiteful i am how I've been buying new underwear (going through my wardrobe) which I have because it makes me happy.

Ultimately making me out to be the bad person although all I've done is hold boundaries I'm not his partner I Dont need to do things for him and he doesn't get to swear at me or about me to our child.

How would you deal with this situation I'm fed up we literally sleep in the same bed with our child in the middle so it disgusts me to think he's bringing women into it. I could buy a new bed but I'd have no wear to put it when I move out as I won't be buying anywhere for 3 months

I'm also fed up with being painted as the bad person when genuinely I just want nothing to do with him

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Greenhouse12 · 18/02/2024 21:49

Just to add he's sneaking women in when I go to the gym at 9/10pm for an hour whilst our toddler is sleeping upstairs and times when I go out with family and friends with my toddler in the day.

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KTheGrey · 18/02/2024 22:08

It's going to take a period of gritting your teeth and putting up with the difficulty of it. It does sound very grim.

Maybe the sale won't fall through. But if it does, there will be another buyer out there somewhere. I feel for you; selling a house is very stressful and your situation is making it even more so.

Thisisnotarehearsal · 18/02/2024 22:11

Film him bringing the women in and send the footage to his family.

Greenhouse12 · 18/02/2024 22:47

Thank you for the advice so far I am praying the sale doesn't fall though and I'm tempted to send the footage to his family I could easily catch him on the baby monitor but then I Dont want to look like a bitter baby mum or like I still care

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