AIBU - time for myself vs spending time with DH

[SlightlyOCDMum]

As a word of context, I took both our daughters abroad for the week of half term, DH stayed back home to work. We are both full time working parents.
The following day upon my return, I was afraid of the reaction but still asked DH if I could go to the hairdresser (I need it both for my physical appearance but also to have a moment to myself). DH reluctantly agreed, but told me he was upset that I didn't want to spend time with him and that I would rather leave him as soon as I am back.
I explained this was not about leaving him nor not wanting to spend time with him, but much rather about having a short moment for myself to recover from a week with our children (one has a disability and is a massive drain on our mental and physical health).
AIBU for wanting to spend a short moment by myself? Or is DH right to say that I should want to spend time with him instead of doing something on my own?

I can’t get over asking if you can go for a haircut! Book haircut, tell him you’re going and he’s in charge, go

Nah! I don’t think it was because he missed her but because she wasn’t doing what he thought she should do. I’m guessing he was required to look after their children whilst OP was at the hairdresser and resented that.

Does he do his fair share of parenting Op? He'd had a week without parenting, so if he usually pulls his weight he should have been happy to look after his DC for an hour or two. I can't help but feel this is far less about missing you and far more about a man who thinks the DC are your job