Dd is 19. She is very kind and generous and an all round nice person. She always had plenty of friends at primary school. Several were close. There was often friendship drama in her class but dd seemed to manage her way through it ok.
At secondary school, her best friend from primary just suddenly dropped her for no apparent reason which really hurt her. Her next best friend was extremely needy and dd was emotionally supporting her for years. As soon as dd went through a bad time, the friend was not interested. Again she was hurt and they drifted apart.
Later dd dropped out of college, I suspect partly because she didn’t like the friendship drama which was going on. She now has a decent job and is happy in her work.
Another close friend recently has gone to uni. She’s hardly contacted dd and when they do see each other it’s ALL about the friend (it has always been this way but got even worse lately). She bangs on incessantly about herself hardly pausing for breath, dd listens and empathises. If dd tries to speak about herself the friend makes it clear she’s not interested (eg goes on her phone while dd talks) then when dd finishes, changes the subject back to her. Dd finally snapped and now they have fallen out and not spoken in weeks. It’s really upset her.
At work, dd is surrounded by a number of seemingly v nice young women around her own age but doesn’t/cannot turn that from friendly work colleagues into actual friendship. It doesn’t help that dd is now a supervisor and they’re all team members, so there’s a barrier there that she’s aware of. I think there is a group chat that she’s not part of so it’s hard. She has arranged a couple of things outside work with one particular person but it’s not gone anywhere. I don’t know how to advise her but am very worried about her being so isolated and lonely.