- dad died. Help

[Flyhigher]

My dad died a week ago. Peacefully. But help.
It's so painful. Help

I’m so sorry. It is incredibly painful and life altering. You will be ok even though right now that mightn’t feel possible. I hope you have family and friends around you to support you. Remember there is no ‘right’ way to grieve. If you are having difficulty sleeping (common after a bereavement) your gp should prescribe a few sleeping tablets to help you through.

There will be better days than this.

for me, it was one foot in front of the other, one breath at a time. I used to listen to a song, all I can do is keep breathing.

it won’t always be as sharp as it is right now. I wish you strength.

I am so sorry for your loss.
Its so early and difficult to process when there are practical things going on.
Do you have any support? Family friends etc?
Be sad. Dont block it. The pain will go but the sadness will stay. Think about your dad and how he would want you to be.
Sending hugs.x

Bless you Flyhigher. Yes it is painful. But you'll get though it, one day at a time, you'll learn to live with it.
If you don't have anyone to talk to, you could call Cruse.
https://www.cruse.org.uk/about/contact-us/

Having gone through two bereavements recently I really agree with the poster who refers to one step at a time. Accept any offers of help or companionship you can, it's really good to get out and talk. You'll find kindness and sympathy in the most unexpected places yet long term friends can let you down. People cross the street to avoid me and many have just never acknowledged that anything happened.
Grief has been a shock for me and the range of feelings are bewildering. Accept help and kindness where you get it would be my main message.

Thank you. X. I now don't like my Mum much.

Everyone deals with grief differently. Be gentle with yourself and think of the good times. You won't get over it, but he will always be with you. Eventually you will think of him and just feel love over everything being so raw right now.

I’m so very sorry for your loss. These early days, when it feels like the world has shifted on its axis and no one outside the small bubble of your grief has really noticed. Friends and family of person who died can be a mixed bag - might be supportive, or might be drowning in their own personal hell and not helping at all - maybe angry or numb or just in pieces.

There's no easy way through this but don’t forget if you are really not coping the GP can help with sleep and AD medication.

I'm so sorry for your loss but glad it was peaceful for him. I can only wish the same for those I love, I hope you can even find some comfort in the fact he was comfortable and at peace.

Rest when you need to but do try to stay active and be around people you love or do things you enjoy. I'll be thinking of you op. X

Hugs, it does get easier. I'm pretty much a year down the line and it's still painful but in a different way.
Take each day as it comes

Oh I'm so sorry! I lost my mam suddenly last year and my dad almost died a week after so I can only imagine your heartbreak.

Take each day as it comes, grief is so personal, do what you need to do to get through each day. Be kind to yourself.