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If you won the Euromillions, would you have to give some

48 replies

Letsseewhattomorrowbrings · 17/02/2024 18:16

To your other half (not married, but living together and with a child)
I’m not talking morally/what would be fair to do
Just out of interest.
I live with Dp (quite unhappily ) and young dc. We’re not married, but together a long time. House in both our names, bar, bills and so on.
At the moment, he earns more than me, as I do the majority with our Dd and the majority of everything else. In the past I earned the same or more at points over the years.
Our bank account is joint.
If I were to purchase a ticket one day myself and I won, would I legally have to give any to him (not saying I wouldn’t) just curious
Realise this will never happen 😂

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NewYearNewCalendar · 17/02/2024 18:49

Nope, he wouldn’t be entitled to any, just as you’d not be entitled to anything he won. Though you’d need your own bank account to put it in. Do you not have one of your own? I’ve never understood doing that.

WhyWhyY · 17/02/2024 18:50

If I was that lucky I’d be gone in a heartbeat

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 17/02/2024 18:59

He wouldn’t legally be entitled to any.

If he went for child maintenance from you then he could go for an unearned income variation to have the interest on the savings taken into account as income.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 17/02/2024 19:00

NewYearNewCalendar · 17/02/2024 18:49

Nope, he wouldn’t be entitled to any, just as you’d not be entitled to anything he won. Though you’d need your own bank account to put it in. Do you not have one of your own? I’ve never understood doing that.

Big lottery winners generally get new accounts anyway as they often use banks like Coutts so it wouldn’t matter if a winner didn’t have their own account currently

Letsseewhattomorrowbrings · 17/02/2024 19:24

@WhyWhyY Yeah 🤗

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positivesliceofpie · 17/02/2024 20:20

Im single so i would keep the lot and keep my mouth shut.
No one would know ive won.

NarnianQueen · 17/02/2024 20:27

If you won and you wanted to leave him, surely you'd just do that, live modestly and never let on?!

NotAgainWilson · 17/02/2024 20:28

positivesliceofpie · 17/02/2024 20:20

Im single so i would keep the lot and keep my mouth shut.
No one would know ive won.

Same.

chiwwy · 17/02/2024 20:32

Letsseewhattomorrowbrings · 17/02/2024 18:30

@chiwwy I know

So what’s the thread for?!

Saymyname28 · 17/02/2024 20:34

If its bought from the joint bank account surely he has joint ownership. Just like any other piece of property. Bought with joint fund=joint ownership.

Bought with your own money. No, you don't even have to tell him. Personally it would be our money because we're happy and committed and building a life together.

PrinnyPree · 17/02/2024 20:40

Legally no (although if you bought the ticket out of the joint account maybe it would be a joint win?), but even if the relationship was in its death throes, I would want my DC to go round to their Dads, have a room of their own in a nice house and not see him struggling. So I'd probably buy him a house and pay off his debts on my way out of the door.

However if he was a lovely Dad, the relationship was failing through no real fault and I still wanted to be friends I'd probably give him a genrous chunk more.

Alternatively if he was an abusive monster and this was my chance to escape he wouldn't see a bloody penny.

Letsseewhattomorrowbrings · 17/02/2024 20:56

@chiwwy ? I know that my pension is less at the moment whilst I work part time. My post wasn’t about that

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tutttutt · 17/02/2024 20:57

Moveoverdarlin · 17/02/2024 18:23

Not legally, but if you split up, I think he would be well within his right to come after a proportion of your winnings and stand a good chance of getting some.

On what basis? They aren't married.

Letsseewhattomorrowbrings · 17/02/2024 20:57

If it was just from cash, wouldn’t ever buy a ticket using my card

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tutttutt · 17/02/2024 21:03

So have you? Won. Otherwise why overthink it

tutttutt · 17/02/2024 21:05

ComtesseDeSpair · 17/02/2024 18:27

Legally, no. But if he financially supports you currently when he has no legal obligation to do so, surely the same should be true in reverse.

The more important question is why you’re wasting your lives in an unhappy relationship. It’s damaging all of you.

He financially support. She practically supports. No one is doing any more for the other.

Flatleak · 17/02/2024 21:12

Letsseewhattomorrowbrings · 17/02/2024 20:57

If it was just from cash, wouldn’t ever buy a ticket using my card

But where did the cash come from? If you only have a joint account then you can't claim it's your money. If you have a separate account too with withdrawals in cash, then fine

Letsseewhattomorrowbrings · 17/02/2024 21:14

@Flatleak Cash in hand job

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Llandudley · 17/02/2024 21:18

When you win you will be asked who paid for the ticket and if you have told anybody. The winnings can only be paid out to one person.

Letsseewhattomorrowbrings · 17/02/2024 21:25

@Llandudley Why do they ask you if you’ve told anybody?

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Llandudley · 17/02/2024 21:44

If you have won a substantial sum the news will leak if you have told anyone and they want to be prepared for that.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 17/02/2024 22:12

This doesn’t sound a healthy relationship at all.

determinedtomakethiswork · 17/02/2024 22:26

I think you should be careful in this situation to make sure you pay for any tickets from your own account rather than a joint account.

As far as sharing is concerned legally you don't have to as you are not married and you certainly don't owe him anything. If you won the euro lottery and won tens of millions of pounds then you'd have to remember that your child would still be seeing that dad and the change in living situations would be very marked.

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