Am I miserable for not wanting my 5 year old to sit eating a huge bag of biscuits and three packets of crisps?

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Made nachos last night as a Friday night thing. Dh brought Dd a kinder egg home after work. He also brought home a 6 pack of crisps and a huge bag of broken biscuit things and handed it to Dd. He didn’t know we were having nachos already and she ended up having a few, because I said she needed to eat her dinner, plus she had the chocolate egg.
I was working this morning, came home and Dd is sat watching tv, Dh on his phone and Dd is working her way through the huge bag of biscuits and has two empty crisp bags next to her from crisps she’d already eaten. I said to her not to eat all the biscuits and crisps and just have a couple a day. I asked Dh to pass me the bag as she was literally just shoving her hand in eating the whole bag. He got pissed off at me and said I was miserable, I said it’s not miserable to just let your kid sit all day in front of the tv eating crap. She eats a really good diet but has chocolate, crisps etc too in normal amounts, he keeps coming home with a kinder egg or sweets most nights, she doesn’t need it does she??
Am I being miserable?

For context, in terms of weight she’s v slim, so unlikely to become overweight, but I just don’t want her constantly eating sugary things 🤷🏻‍♀️

I believe in everything in moderation. Treats are fine but DH is encouraging unhealthy habits. YANBU

No way would I hand all that food to a five year old. Whether we were having nachos or not.

What are your DH's eating habits like?

You know you aren’t. Surely this is just post aimed at bashing your DH instead of resolving it in person.

You aren't being miserable.....i would limit the snacks to once or twice a week. Not every day x

YNBU

Why is he doing this do you think?

@TheSnowyOwl Arent the majority of posts on here and to get others opinions

@LoveAHamSandwhich He can eat a lot of crap like biscuits etc at times, he’s still slim though and in shape, so probably thinks that makes it ok, it’s not about that.

YANBU of course but the irony on this is that on Mumsnet if it was a grandparent giving your daughter this amount of crap you would be being v v unreasonable because "grandparents' prerogative". I notice that this is not extended to any other care giver.

@theduchessofspork I don’t know, he says they were on offer so he just picked them up. I’ve said to him to maybe just bring her a treat (kinder egg etc) on a Friday night, it was getting to the point it’s almost every night

Yanbu , treats every night would be a no no here. Nobody needs to be eating that much rubbish. A weekend treat no problem but every night is just too much

@RM2013 Yes same, she has a really, good balanced diet that already includes some biscuits, chocolates at times, so why overload with extra. The other day he asked about coke and I was like ‘Why??’ Why would you give a 5 year old Coke, I don’t get it. She’s perfectly happy with water and hasn’t ever said otherwise

Not at all, my kids can only have one bag of crisps a day and I’m quite structured about how many treats as I want them to grow up knowing moderation

i understand he enjoys treating her, and it sounds as though you do because you say you give her biscuits and chocolate too, so maybe you just need to communicate and each occasionally bring her a treat.

You are right. Eating rubbish is an easy habit to get into and not a good one for kids. Its not about weight now, its about healthy eating habits and your insides as well.
We dont let our DS eat crisps, chocolate or sweets everyday. Its not a good diet.
On the other hand we dont call sweet things treats, we dont think its a greay way to frame it.

One bag of crisps a day is hugely excessive.

Is he trying to compensate for the fact he isn’t there as often as you?
Regardless of her weight, feeding her that much crap is not good for her, as you well know. He’s introducing her to way too much sugar, and it could easily become a problem down the line when it comes to addiction and weight issues.
A Kinder Egg and packet of crisps is more than enough of a treat.

Its not about weight now, its about healthy eating habits and your insides as well.

Yep, your DH may be slim but if he’s regularly eating lots of sugar and processed junk food it’s unhealthy in other ways. And it’s a terrible habit to get your DD into.

YANBU

Education is key here. Send him some factual information on how processed fast foods and sweets foods can affect her health.

We are a household that loves treats and eat them daily, but the amount your DH has given your DD sounds way too much, even to me. YANBU

Your DH is doing the traditional Food is love thing which is pretty misguided. Giving anyone that many empty calories isn't a loving gesture, it just leads to bad eating habits. If your DH wants to show his love for his DC there are lots of better ways