Best way to get over him?

[blondie877]

Split with DP a few months back. Have been trying to fix things but it's all come to a head and we are now no contact.

All of the reasons we split could be fixed, it was mainly distance and poor communication

But he no longer wants to. He's blocked me on everything too.

How do I get over this? He's all I think about. I can't work, sleep eat or have fun with friends because he's always on my mind.

Aibu to think it's something I can change?

No. I don't want to sound harsh but if it's minor things that can be fixed and he doesn't want to, he's really not that invested. Surely you want to be with someone who is.

Just get over it by realising he's not interested. Why would you waste you time/life on someone who doesn't care about you?

There is nothing you can do to get over it, other than allow the passage of time to work its magic. In the meantime, keep busy and surround yourself with your family and friends. It will pass.

You need to move on. Focus your mind on positive things. It also really helps to write a list of all the things that irritated you about him, or that you would have liked to change.

Be very wary of thinking about him through rose coloured spectacles. I've never met him, but I'll start you off

1. Poor at communicating
2. Put little effort in resolving problems
3. Distant - either emotional, or physically
4. Didn't love me enough to want to make it work

You'll meet someone else.

The old saying goes is the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, but I know that's not easy! Just focus on yourself and try to do things you normally enjoy. Time heals as they say. These are all clichés I know, but they do work.

Keep reminding yourself you deserve someone who wants you. He doesn’t. He’s blocked you and he’s happily cut you out of his life.

I dont mean to sound harsh - but it’s easier to get over someone when you face up to their flaws and bad behaviour.

No contact and time are your best friends here. It will get better

Thank you xx

Totally agree re no contact. Be kind to yourself. Eat well, try and get out in the fresh air. Do things to fill your time if being at home is not helping Be single for a while. When you feel ready look again actively avoid the things that caused grief in your previous relationship. In the unlikely event he does contact u, let silence be your best weapon. Been there OP. Hand hold.