Should I leave?

[Hubhubba26]

2 years ago my partner and DS relocated from a city to a village in the South, to be closer to my partners hobby and father. Its been a struggle to meet people and I have this constant feeling of not quite fitting in. My 5 year old son, usually social and outgoing, but quirky in his own way, also seems to be struggling to make friends. There is an air of differences being basically not welcome. Every day I ask myself why I agreed to this move and either I could turn back the clock. I do feel as I though we were basically bulldozed into this position.

I basically don't know what to do. Should I preserver or get out and move somewhere more open minded before this affects the 2 of us further? Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

@Firstnews24 see my reply to @YoBeaches 👆

Are you financially dependent on your boyfriend? It sounds like he won’t be moving, so your options seem to be stay, or move as a lone parent and transport your kid to his father for his contact time.

How far away would you be looking to move?

Have a look around what is outside of your immediate village. Different clubs for you and or ds, plus work opportunities to meet other people.

You only need one friend for things to feel better. Have you made any mum friends yet through school? Could you get involved with the PTA?

What other things have you tried so far?

When you say diversity can you be more specific, are you feeling racial exclusion?

I’ve moved a fair bit, OP. I think it takes at least three years to settle into a new place - that’s if you work or have some other immediate “network”. And it’s normally harder with children.

I’m not promising you’ll like it, but I don’t think 2 years is giving it a proper go.

You say you’re looking for work - will that be limited because of needing to work around childcare? I think you’ll have more success fitting in if you can fully put yourself into something that you are interested in. So if your DH has work and his hobby (and family?) here I think you need to push for him to do more of the picking up the slack/default parenting/working around DS while you really push yourself forward in some way outside the home.

@RawBloomers this is wise advice.