Birthday gifts

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NRP gives DC £300 gifts on their 18th birthdays

NRP has more DC with new partner they get £600 gifts on their 18th (as it’s both parents contributing).

Is this fair / right?

YABU - of course not, all DC should get the same from the NRP household

YANBU - yes it is, first children also have RP gift so the second children should get 2 x the amount as they only have one household

Of course it's fair. Presumably your kids only got half the amount their siblings got because you didn't give them anything?!
Your kids have two parents too.

Very fair as child’s mother will also be giving them a gift.

I think though the child's mum may not give them £300 or 300 worth of gifts. Which is their choice but will mean the child isn't treated the same.

Oh God, there's a drip feed. Why isn't you say it was you in the original post, op?
Your voting options don't make sense either.

I thought it was pretty obvious OP was the second wife/partner and was referring to her step children. She gave the option YANBU if people thought it was fair

OP it’s perfectly fair and fine. Just tell the EX that DH is giving each child £300 (she needn’t know about your joint finance set up)
Tell her you have also chosen to give £300 to yours and she can also give £300 to her DCs if she wants to
if she decided to give hers £500 each then I’m sure there wouldn’t be an issue that hers have £800 and yours £600!

I think it's fair. It doesn't matter what RP is spending - all the kids are getting a gifts from their father and mother. Your DC are getting presents from all their parents.

Why is it a drip feed? It’s either fair or it’s not regardless of who is asking the question?

I think it applies to inheritance too. I have DSC and DH and I agree our estate should be split so half goes to our (my) DC and his "half" is shared between all DC because my SDC also have a mother they will most likely inherit from.

I can understand how kids would be hurt if they see it as their parent favouring their half siblings. It's really tough. It's basically highlighting that they aren't a full member of the family, only a half member of the family unit- which is totally fine if that's the case.

Perfectly fair. RP can make up the difference presumably?

It's fair but might need explaining to the kids who get less

She needs to wind her fucking neck in

I also think people saying YABU might be confused by your voting options!

Of course it's fair. Unless your dp was the only earner amomg the three of you or something, but that isn't the case.

Totally fair - if she wants to join forces with her ex and get him a big present maybe that's an option?