Taking DS abroad for one extra night

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I’m taking DS (12) abroad for two nights in a couple of months while DH stays home with DS(7) Originally we had agreed that I would take DS away for just 2 nights but looking at the itinerary we wouldn’t have that much time in our chosen place (possibly Portugal or Spain)

Some background - DS (7) is autistic and we aren’t able to have proper holidays as a family so as a compromise I suggested that so DS (12) doesn’t lose out we would each take him away for a couple of mini breaks per year.

DH is dead against us going for more than 2 nights as he’s working the day after we come back. I’ve arranged for our 7 year old to go attend his usual overnight respite on the last night so DH won’t have to stress but he still won’t budge as he’s worried something will go wrong and he will have to take time off work.

AIBU to want the extra night? 3 nights would make a big difference to how much time we have and it’s only once a year we would go.

bloody hell

he is being unreasonable!!

i suppose we will just have to agree to disagree on the relevance of his job

@Firstnews24 plenty of surgeons have kids and a wife. This isn't unusual.

Not at all unreasonable. DH needs to step up the same way you'd just do it if he wanted an extra night. You don't get to choose how long you parent your children alone for

YANBU. If DH is seriously concerned about the slight risk that he might have to look after a sick child then why doesn't he book the day off?

Two nights isn't much for an overseas trip, three nights gives you two full days sightseeing. It's not very fair on the DS you are taking away to miss out 'just in case'.